<p>Ditto what Alex said. Huey, stop being such a Molly Daniels.</p>
<p>I love me a Black woman, they are Strong and demanding. White girls are to weak and cry to much, and I really hate it.</p>
<p>If I get into a fight I don't need a girl who will call the cops on me if I yell, I need a girl who will punch me in the face.</p>
<p>People certainly have preferences for hair colour, eye colour, height, personality, etc. However, these preferences are usually very flexible, and if somebody really like black hair and blue eyes, it's not that person is going to reject everybody else who doesn't fit that image. Preferences like those mentioned above are usually a fun daydream.</p>
<p>However, it's a reality that there are some people out there who don't have preferences when it comes to race, but requirements. Most of the time, these "preferences" have roots in racism and beliefs in the inferiority of certain races, which is why they refuse to associate themselves with them at the most personal level. Friends? Co-workers? Fine. But partner and family? Never.</p>
<p>Whoa I leave this thread for a day and look what happens.</p>
<p>I decided that the best way to approach this is this: if you date exclusively within skin colors, then you are missing out on some of the most beautiful,intelligent, and interesting members of the opposite sex. Yay, more for me.</p>
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But one cannot say that there is one culture with Black people, or one with white people, or Asians, or Hispanics, etc.
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<p>I certainly didn't mean that there is only one culture for each race. Just that when people say that, it is sometimes true.</p>
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<p>Not always...I wouldn't date anyone more than an inch or so shorter than me (I'm 5'10) because it would make me very uncomfortable. And yeah, I know girls (and have seen them on here) that refuse to date anyone shorter than 6'0. There are also many people that will not even consider dating someone who's overweight. Basically, some folks are way pickier than you're giving them credit for.</p>
<p>Sure, but that makes them discriminatory. No one's saying you HAVE to date someone you don't find attractive, it's if you find them attractive but choose not to date them DUE TO THEIR RACE (or, more than likely, the race they look most like, ie, the color of their skin) that's racist.</p>
<p>Um no its not racism. read the definition of racism.</p>
<p>Discriminatory my bum. People have tons of deal breakers when it comes to dating, and if race happens to be one of them, so be it.</p>
<p>Why do you care why others choose to date or not date people, anyway? It's a personal decision that really doesn't concern others.</p>
<p>Heh, this has gotten comical.</p>
<p>I don't see the big deal. If you want to date outside your race, do it, if not don't; it's certainly not racism. It is, however, freedom to do what you like. Thank god we have that right, yes?</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
<p>If we all reproduced with each other, in like 50+ or so years the world would be the same color as if you mixed all the different colors of paint together in pre-school.</p>
<p>A really Nasty color if ya ask me. I think races are important.</p>
<p>There is nothing inherently wrong with it. All of the taboos were socially constructed a while ago when they were more appropriate in the United States and they still remain.</p>
<p>I think the original poster posed a very interesting question, but one that is tough to answer while remaining politically correct. Therefore, in my effort to give a genuine response, I'll spare you all the inanities of politeness and merely preface my remarks with one sentiment: these are stereotypes, and do not apply to all black women, but a large number of then, enough so that a generalization may be made. Some of these same flaws exist in women of other races too, because again, each individual is different, so what is true of the masses is not always the case for an individual. That being said, the general issues I tend to notice:</p>
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<li>Language - I have no problem with profanity and the like. But I find ebonics and ghetto slang to be uncouth, and therefore unbecoming. </li>
<li>Attitude - A woman should have spine. But there becomes a point where it is excessive. Being obnoxious, overly aggressive, or otherwise "gangsta" is very unwomanly, and therefore not a turn on. </li>
<li>Views - This is something which is more of a personal issue with me than with most. So I may be the only person who finds this to be an issue. Personally, while I'm open to relationships with women of other outlooks, I tend to favor those that share my political and religious views. And as of yet, I've never met a single black female that is both an Atheist and a Neo-Objectivist.</li>
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<p>RACISM - Discrimination or prejudice based on race.</p>
<p>DISCRIMINATION - treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit</p>
<p>Note that discrimination is not always a bad thing, sometimes it's about making a choice, ie, "Discriminate the correct answer." You ARE being discriminatory if you choose to only date, for example, men over 6 feet. That doesn't make you a bad person (though perhaps a kind of dumb one), but call it what it is, you're discriminating against short people.</p>
<p>Nothing wrong with having standards, if you've never been attracted to someone of a different race that does NOT make you a racist. It's if you HAVE been attracted but chose not to pursue it SOLELY BASED ON THEIR RACE that makes it racism. Discrimination based on race. Racism. Again, that doesn't make you a bad person, but admit it to yourself. It feels good to have lots of multicultural friends and tell yourself you're so intolerant, and the label of "racist" has so much social stigma attached to it. But you first have to examine yourself - we're all a little bit racist, and you should just admit to yourself that that's what you're doing, instead of hiding behind varying (ridiculous) excuses.</p>
<p>gprime, well said! </p>
<p>hey kids. please all take a careful look at post number 92. if you wish to show the world how much you care about the plight of minorities, please go donate your savings to poor minorities now. don't talk about how moral and above everyone you are. hypocrisy in a way is just as bad as the empty phrases you offer. racist? yeah right.</p>
<p>Um, firefox, no one was talking about poor people anyway. Like someone said before, it funny but also sad when racism is played down. I guess this new generation forgot how bad it was 20-30 years and thinks it does not exist. It does and deal with it. luckycharmed is right, the definitions are correct. If you feel bad about your racist views I'm sorry, but the good news is that you are not alone, many people are just like you. I am Black and I know I am definitely a little racist and I'm trying to work on that(but you kno watching Roots...)</p>
<p>Also, the stereotypes given for Black girls? I know you said it doesn't apply to everyone, but that's like calling someone a n*gger and then telling your black friend, "oh no not you, I was talking about them. I don't see you as one of tham. Ha ha." I am sorry we have some confidence in ourselves and we do not let people push us around, deal with it. And most black woman speak properly. Even the graduation and college matriculation rates for Black women is higher than that of Black men. </p>
<p>All the characteristics listed were also traits that you can find in anyone of a different ethnicity. </p>
<p>You don't see me saying, " Oh I can't date a white guy 'cause most of them beat their women, and when someone leaves them, they stalk and kill them." Or, "Them white girls are so insecure and slutty, they do anything for someone to like them. Well, at least the ones I've known."</p>
<p>You don't like that do you? Well that's how I feel when you all talk about these stereotypes "that don't apply to all of us"</p>
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You don't see me saying, " Oh I can't date a white guy 'cause most of them beat their women, and when someone leaves them, they stalk and kill them." Or, "Them white girls are so insecure and slutty, they do anything for someone to like them. Well, at least the ones I've known."
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<p>Well said. </p>
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Not always...I wouldn't date anyone more than an inch or so shorter than me (I'm 5'10) because it would make me very uncomfortable. And yeah, I know girls (and have seen them on here) that refuse to date anyone shorter than 6'0. There are also many people that will not even consider dating someone who's overweight. Basically, some folks are way pickier than you're giving them credit for.
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<p>This is a very telling statement, because it essentially equates some races with certain "flaws" such as being short and fat.</p>
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* Language - I have no problem with profanity and the like. But I find ebonics and ghetto slang to be uncouth, and therefore unbecoming.
* Attitude - A woman should have spine. But there becomes a point where it is excessive. Being obnoxious, overly aggressive, or otherwise "gangsta" is very unwomanly, and therefore not a turn on.
* Views - This is something which is more of a personal issue with me than with most. So I may be the only person who finds this to be an issue. Personally, while I'm open to relationships with women of other outlooks, I tend to favor those that share my political and religious views. And as of yet, I've never met a single black female that is both an Atheist and a Neo-Objectivist.
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<p>It's interesting how most people's objections to interracial dating seems to stem from personality conflicts, as opposed to aesthetic preferences. Maybe people just don't have the guts to say, "I hate the black woman's dark skin and rounded nose", but hopefully, that's not the case.</p>
<p>It's a racist belief to think that race and behavior are linked because it pigeon-holes millions of people into certain stereotypes. I think it's understandable to link culture and behavior, like assuming that someone from the ghetto will think and act like someone from the ghetto. But it's not okay to think that someone who's merely Black will think and act like someone from the ghetto because it assumes that all Blacks act in uniform fashion. This thread should've been called "What's wrong with us Black ghetto girls?" because that's the people everyone seems to have a problem with.</p>
<p>But of course, minorities usually aren't given the privilege of having distinctions made within their subcultures. When the Columbine kids went on their rampage, they searched for psychological reasons; when the VTech massacre happened, it was easily explainable because the killer was Asian, and Asians are untrustworthy, potentially crazy, and always a mystery to good (White) Americans.</p>
<p>^that's so true, they kept on mentioning that the VT guy was South Korean and an immigrant but they never said anything about the Columbine kids being white.</p>
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<p>Uh, yea they did.</p>
<p>uh no they didn't they showed pictures that proved they were white but they did not say, like the case of VT, "Two white kids did this" or "It was found that two white were ridiculed" or "Two white kids in trench coats..." So much emphasis was put on the fact the VT kid was South Korean(and that he was a English major?) as if it mattered. Even the Korean student association felt the need to issue an apology. For what?</p>