High school girl dating college guy?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I'm going to be a junior this year in highschool and the guy i like is headig off to the college i plan on going to in the next two years- Culinary Institute of America. If we were to start a relationship, how difficult would it be to maintain it? The CIA is in New York and we both live in Connecticut; not too far away...i know there will be new experiences and lots of girls there, but if i don't talk to him i'm always going to wonder "what if i hadn't taken that step and talked to him?" is there anyone else out there who can give advice on this sort of thing? Advice and options are welcome, thank you. </p>

<p>And by the way, i'm mature or so many adults/people have said i am, it's not really one of those schoolgirl crushes. I've liked this guy ever since i laid my eyes on him before i started highschool, and now he's going away.</p>

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<p>I hate to break it to you, but it is a schoolgirl crush. They happen all the way through college, and on into adulthood, too. It happens to the most mature people, so I’m sorry, but you’re not exempt. :stuck_out_tongue: You can try saying something to him, but seeing as it’s still only a crush at this point, and there’s only a month of summer left, I wouldn’t count on anything coming of you saying anything to him. Have you even talked to him at all yet, as friends or acquaintances?</p>

<p>Of course, anything can happen, and you could end up dating. However, I really wouldn’t recommend it. You wouldn’t have been dating this person for long at all, and long distance relationships are HARD. I’ve done it myself and know several people who have as well, and all of us have said numerous times that we’d never do it again. You’d probably spend a lot of time wishing you could just have a proper conversation with the person, see them, be with them in person. Computer technology is improving, but it’s still not the same. Mostly, you’d miss doing stuff together, and the easy, idle chatter that comes with it.</p>

<p>Personally, I’d work on cultivating a friendship for now. Something might come of it, or it might not, but until it does, you’re not tied to each other and missing out on life by pouring tons of time and energy into a difficult-to-maintain relationship. It’s what worked for me. :)</p>