<p>Hi, I'm a high school senior who has never been a serious relationship. I've had flings and had "guy friends". I rarely have crushes, and when I do it's on attractive guys that lack the personality. I'm somewhat outgoing, I try to go out every weekend, when I'm not studying, go to football games, try a lot of extracurricular, and volunteer everywhere. The problem is that I haven't found anyone physically or mentally attractive, not even a celebrity can arouse me. Also I've never been asked out to "homecoming" or "prom". I always try to be friendly and approachable, but maybe I'm not attractive. I'm a avid runner and cyclist, 5'4 Asian, long hair, 115 pounds, sort of have flat abs. I don't want to get into a serious relationship until senior year of university. I'm still young and want to have fun, who doesn't want to be committed yet. I want to date someone who's a triathlete or rower (that's what I plan to do in university) and preferable a business major (accounting major). I sometimes feel jealous when I see everyone's Facebook status as "In a Relationship", although most of the people on Facebook have too much time on their hands thus a relationship?</p>
<p>I wish I could meet a runner that I actually am attracted to, not just because he runs. I also want to have a prom date that I like. Any advice?</p>
<p>anyway I’m a guy but I’d be hesitant to date someone who only wants a senior year fling. I think I’m unusual in that respect though. I guess it might be your outlook on this…don’t expect to find a deep relationship if you’re looking for a casual fling =x</p>
<p>“The problem is that I haven’t found anyone physically or mentally attractive, not even a celebrity can arouse me.”</p>
<p>So you’ve never seen anyone you thought was physically attractive, regardless if you had known them or not? That’s odd…</p>
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<p>lol maybe all the guys you’ve met so far aren’t too good for you? it happens i guess but sometimes you can fall in love after knowing the person well. basing someone on looks or their mentality can be deceiving sometimes. i personally believe the best time for a serious relationship would be in your college years. high school guys have fluctuating hormonal problems too, so don’t fret it.</p>
<p>I think you should be more open. You shouldn’t limit the people you could be compatible with. Personally, I think you should give everyone a chance:) I’m sure you will find somebody though, no worries. Besides, most high school relationships don’t last anyway.</p>
<p>Don’t date in high school. I see no reason in it. You will most likely break up, anyway. Wait for college.</p>
<p>Also, you’re asking the wrong people. If you look at the “were you awesome in high school” thread, you will find that the majority of CCers have had no gf or bf.</p>
<p>There’s a big difference between claiming that you don’t want a serious relationship and claiming that you have never been attracted to anyone. The former is completely legit, the latter is unusual. So which one is it?</p>
<p>it’s normal to not be aroused when you see someone walking by. we’re all busy. have you ever made out with a guy? once you’re up against someone, that’s when it’s normal to be aroused. and don’t limit yourself based on arbitrary stuff like his chosen sport/hobby</p>
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<p>how many celebrities have tried to arouse you?</p>
<p>I guess that I’m not attracted to anyone in my everyday real life at my high school. The other people I meet outside of school are either too old or I never see them again. When I mean flings, I mean the all the way to third base with guys. The past three years, I used to talk to a lot of guys. I usually ended up falling for one of my guy friends, a lot of the times based on personality not physical attractiveness. A lot of them ended up feeling the same for me, but they had girlfriends and they were willing to date me, almost secretly. I didn’t want to be the “mistress” or the cause of their breakups so I got over them. The rest of guy friends I liked were either too busy or preoccupied with their future, in hopes of becoming engineer. This one guy I really liked, after getting to know him personally for a year, not because of looks, was like that, but always made excuses that he had robotics. The other guy friends that easily tried to turn me down said maybe in the prospective talking about “our future”. I’m open to new possibilities, but I guess with relationships, it’s always the wrong timing. It just doesn’t feel right, and the other excuse of AP classes. I want a serious relationship if it’s the right guy right now. If not, I’ll wait instead of settling for less. Running and health is very important to me, that’s why I need to date a runner, because I can’t take care of an obese or overweight guy 24/7. I’m being whiny right now and I guess I want Mr. Right…now. Guys rarely ask me out, instead they stand and stare, even though I tried to break the ice with them before. The blush and talk about me, even when I’m there, calling me “the attractive girl with the long hair…”. I even gave guys subtle hints to ask me out, don’t ask a guy out (that backfires in an attempt at a relationship…I tried)</p>
<p>I wish high school boys would have the cajoles to approach me and ask me out.</p>
<p>I hate to tell you this, but just because someone isn’t incredibly fit doesn’t mean they’re unhealthy. Also, just because someone is fit doesn’t mean they are healthy.</p>
<p>Also, dating isn’t like a catalogue: You don’t just pick out the one you want. It doesn’t work like that.</p>
<p>Instead of thinking it that way, maybe you should just think of guys as, well, “people” instead of targets. If you keep wanting to be in a relationship desperately, it just may not happen, its like an unatural relationship. But if you just have guys as friends, and then good friends, and then really good friends, then you can start doing things.</p>
<p>Yeah like diontechristmas said, you can’t just pick, oh I want this person to like me.</p>
<p>Like someone else said, even “Mr. Right” won’t be 100% perfect. I’d suggest being open in terms of viewpoint (don’t approach a guy wondering if he’s the right one; approach him for conversation, as a friend, etc). I’ve gotten to know some people who I thought were different at first but now I like talking to them in class and I don’t feel awkward or anything. If you don’t find someone right now, someday you will. Don’t worry.</p>