Hi, posting in the Parents forum because it seems active! This is my first post, but I’m a rising senior looking at competitive colleges (Duke, Ivys etc). While I have been academically competitive through high school and had my fair share of fun, I am a very high stress student. This comes from myself, not my parents, but I get extremely worried etc about school and have faced anxiety related insomnia issues. This hasn’t been a huge issue, but I worry about a competitive high stress college experience (I go to a good, but public school with lower stress). I don’t have extreme issues at all, but I do not want my academics or college fun experience to suffer because of competition and stress.
It seems that small liberal arts style schools are best for fostering a community rather than a competitive environment, but when I have visited them I always get nervous about the tiny size. I worry that a small school would feel like high school, and that I would quickly grow tired of seeing the same old people again and again. On the other hand, I loved UPenn, Duke, Harvard etc and other traditionally “competitive” schools when I visited, but worry that the stress/anxiety would prove too much. Visits-wise, I have been attracted to mid-large schools, especially urban ones, but those often seems to come with a competitive “price tag.” On the other hand, small schools like Pomona with its laid back west-coast feel and Williams with its preppy but intellectual feel seem, in theory, like a better fit, but feel prohibitively small when I visit.
Thank you in advance for any guidance or experience!