<p>Ever since I started to take AP classes my sophomore year in HS my family has been placing more emphasis on my role around the house. I clean the house every week and I take care of the lawn by myself, but that seems to go unnoticed, that is until I don't do it.</p>
<p>These past couple months it has gotten worse. I am trying really hard to keep up my chores and balance marching band with AP classes and online college courses, but it seems I can never escape the horrible degrading words of my family.</p>
<p>Every time I don't do something right or if I just don't do it, my mother threatens to leave the family, and my dad refuses to get involved. My parents and sisters all think I don't do anything around the house, even though I know I do. I'm not just sugar coating my point of view, I actually work hard to keep the house maintained.</p>
<p>I never get invited to dinner anymore and I get talked out of going to the store with my mom and sisters. I spend most of my time home alone, but I try to go out with friends as much as possible so I don't feel so alone. And of course my family complains about that too.</p>
<p>I always get yelled at and I just got so tired of it that I have just stopped caring.</p>
<p>I have no desire to fix any of this. I've tried in the past and it didn't work. I have talked to counselors and teachers and I've learned how to cope with this, but my family's constant anger with me makes me feel like they don't even care what I do.</p>
<p>Any similar issues out there?</p>
<p>wow. that’s like a jillion times worse than my parents. but at least you only have a few more years!</p>
<p>My parents are really chill sometimes, but they do make a small problem and blow it up into a big situation. I’m speechless, I have no clue what to say about your situation, I’m just surprised and a little shocked.</p>
<p>Not the whole family issues thing but I being doing alot of chores by myself alot (I’m the only one that washes dishes -_-). More recently I forgot to take the trash to the curb for pick-up and my mom yelled @ me 2:00 AM and blame it on the game because I said I forgot it was sunday. </p>
<p>As for you it sound like you’re in a tough situation. Mommy threathen to leave? That’s called abandoning. Dad won’t get involve? Well he probably clueless as what to do.
It look like you’re having no problem finding free time (just that your parents get upset over that?) Heck take the whole family to consuling or watever.</p>
<p>Thanks for the comments guys, I really hope things calm down soon</p>
<p>First off I’m really sorry about your situation. Just try to form a strong support group with trusted friends, teachers, and counselors, and getting involved in a lot of school stuff (like clubs, etc… if you’re interested) helps. I really hope things get better.</p>
<p>do you have any ideas why their behavior towards you changed? </p>
<p>your mom threatening to leave the family is very sad. is there a source to her unhappiness? </p>
<p>what do you mean your dad refuses to get involved? involved with what? </p>
<p>is your sisters’ relationship with them also strained?</p>
<p>I’m sorry :(.</p>
<p>It really seems as if everyone in your family is going through their own problems and have decided to take it out on you. Perhaps you should ask everyone to get together for a family meeting and discuss your feelings with them. Maybe they just haven’t realized how hard they are on you. I truly hope they’ll ease off of you and I hope everything improves for you. (:</p>
<p>Are there other problems as well? I have this feeling that there are other tensions going around beside the one you have mentioned. I don’t think your mom would threaten to leave just because of you, there are probably other reasons. Maybe she’s displacing her anger on you.
Whatever the reason is, hope things calm down for you. (Btw, do you think your dad refuses to get involved to avoid fighting with your mom? )</p>
<p>Pretty sure that’s normal, dude, lol. I think I forgot to do something really simple like take out the trash a few nights ago and my mom just exploded about how I don’t contribute to the family, am distracted by other things, etc. </p>
<p>Your family’s probably just stressed about something or another. For us, my dad losing his job and us having to move put a lot of stress on ours, so my mom or dad would get angry really quickly when they didn’t mean to. My mom would also threaten to take the kids and leave my stepdad. But people say all sorts of crap they don’t mean when they are stressed. Just try not to take it to heart and keep on focusing on what you need to. :)</p>
<p>I agree with the last three posts. There seems to be other problems circling in your family which seems to be fueling the tensions and anger. </p>
<p>I would try talking to your dad calmly. Even if he refuses to say anything to your mom or sisters, you could at least try to politely ask him if anything is wrong. Just something like, “Mom and sisters seem very upset. I’m worried. Do you think anything is wrong Dad?” He probably won’t help you, but you might at least get an explanation.</p>
<p>If you’ve already tried that or if your dad refuses to talk, I’ld just try not taking your family’s comments too seriously. Hope things calm down for you :)</p>
<p>Thank you guys so much for the support. I just had a bad encounter with the fam and it could have either made everything better or made everything worse. We’ll see.</p>
<p>I really hope you get through it man :)</p>