<p>i've settled into a large university in the midwest, originally being from the south. i have had a truly terrible time transitioning to college life mentally. on paper, i'm doing great; i have a roommate who i'm close with, a boyfriend i met while here, many new friends, and i'm a member of a top tier sorority, with an assistant VP position. i did well last semester, with all a's except for a c in calc (but to be fair my professor spoke no english).
i can't help but be depressed all of the time. i know it's a stupid thing to say but i think the weather and the environment here is really getting me down. i flew home to visit my mom and my stepdad and was the most happy i've been in months. then, on the flight back to campus, i cried seven times. it was extremely embarrassing.
there is a small university close to my mother's house that i could realistically get a full ride from, given my extracurricular and academic credentials from high school and this year. i could live at home and get a similar degree while interning for my family's company. i very much want to do this, even though it isn't necessarily a great school by any means, and i would be downgrading quite a bit.
is it worth it to leave now? i have built a life for me here, and i have tried to hard to acclimate, but i just can't function as well without my loved ones. does anyone have any advice or find themselves in a similar situation?</p>
<p>It’s definitely not stupid to say that the weather and environment is getting you down, since they do play a lot on affecting a person’s emotions. I don’t know if it’s worth it to leave, that’s up to you and your family to decide. I had a similar choice, where I could’ve gotten a full ride from another school about 2 hrs from home instead of 10 hours where I go now, but I’m at the school 10 hours right now. I feel it’s a big transition and a big learning curve, but it helps me grow too. College is also about learning to be independent and growing individually, I feel. </p>
<p>Have you talked with your family about this? It’s quite common to be homesick a lot after seeing your family again. I was really happy when I got to see them over winter break, but after it ended (we got back like early Jan.) I felt really bad, but then after hanging out with friends, doing things, it got better with time. It always makes you feel kind of homesick when you actually see your parents again, it happens with everyone.</p>
<p>Think of college as a transition period between living at home and being independent. If you move back, will you still be prepared to take that next step after you graduate? It’s ok if you don’t feel ready now, but continue to work towards your independence.</p>
<p>Is there a counselor you can see at school? A lot of students deal with homesickness and talking to someone about it and having them help you through it can be very beneficial.</p>
<p>Parent here. Just as you get depressed and homesick when you go back to school after being home on break, parents can experience the same thing too. My daughter is our only child. Every time she goes back to school after being home, I go to pieces. I cry and feel like my heart is breaking. So parents can feel the same way too.</p>