<p>My housemate just came back from a night out, walked into the bathroom and upon seeing me on the scale started to laugh. She was obviously drunk and when I asked why she was laughing her response was she is going to win the bet this year without having to influence me at all. Now I was confused, and a little mad. She then started to talk about my weight pointing out that freshman year I weighed around 115 lbs, the same as her and reminding me we used to share clothes before I gained weight. We have lived with the same girls since sophmore year either in a suite or a house. She assumed I would lose the weight I gained freshman year (which was around 20 lbs) over the summer and when I came back having noticibly gained more weight she and the other 2 girls we live with took bets on if I would gain weight sophmore year, and if so how much. They have done this every year since then, right now were in our senior year. I was so mad I didn't know what to say. </p>
<p>She then went on to say that every year she bets that I would gain the greatest amount of weight and she always won even if she had to help me out a little bit. This is where I lost it and started yelling at her, and she just yelled back saying how easy it was.AAAAAAAAAh I don't know what to do. My weight has gone from around 115lbs to 203 lbs(which is what the scale said when she walked in tonight) and just thought that my friends have been having fun and enjoying my weight gain make me scream.</p>
<p>That is a terrible thing for them to do to you, I agree. Obviously these girls are quite shallow. But what has made you gain nearly 100 pounds?? That is a tremendous amount of weight to gain in 3 years. Are you sick or been depressed?</p>
<p>the only people who actually care about you are your family and close friends. pretty much everyone else will enjoy taking you down. Why did you gain so much weight?</p>
<p>I'm a vindictive person by nature, so the pre-New-years-resolution part of me says "Get revenge on those evil heifers.", the post-resolution part of me says "They aren't your true friends, ignore them and worry about yourself."</p>
<p>The fact that they're betting on something that can heavily affect your health is disgusting.</p>
<p>there comes a time when you just need to step back, take a breath, and say, "i'm over it." in college there's no point to being around people who don't treat you well, don't value your company, and are a negative influence. break away from these awful girls and try to meet other people, even if this means feeling a little lonely for a while during transition.</p>
<p>i'm willing to bet your housemates frequently aren't very nice to you at other times as well, and you might even find yourself motivated to get healthier once you reject their abuse and gain confidence.</p>
<p>I am not naive enough to blame my weight gain completely on my housemates. Only I am to blame and I guess I was in denial about it until I got that slap in the face last night. I guess all those times my housemate made me breakfast, order take out/ brought home food with out me asking, and constant baking was not out of the goodness of her heart. What shocked me the most was when she said that when I am drunk I eat anything they put in front of me. I have had many drunken nights with my housemates where we have ordered tons of food and I think I did most of the eating.</p>
<p>Once again I know I can't completely blame them, especially since freshman year I gained around 20 lbs and then a few more over the summer, which was all before they started placing their wagers. Its not like I don't know where the weight came from. In high school I was active and played sports, in college I stopped the sports, began to party. I was also a big eater in high school and never gained weight, which I guess you can see changed in college. I ate/drank too much, wasn't active and really should not be surprised that I gained weight.</p>
<p>I am a little mad at myself that I let them influence me at all. I cant tell you how many times I complained to them about my weight and they were just overly nice and made me forget about it, saying I was exaggerating things, that they wish they had my curves, they would help me watch what I eat. When I asked my housemate from last night if I could go to the gym with her since I have never been in a gym before and wouldnt know what to do her response was she liked to work out alone. She would say that I should go there and ask the people working at the gym for help, which she knew I was too embarrassed to do.</p>
<p>Sorry about the length, I was just getting some more steam off. My housemates should be waking up soon and I have not clue what to do. Maybe she was too drunk last night and forgot our conversation.</p>
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<p>What were you in denial about? The significance of your weight gain or that it was your own fault? </p>
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Once again I know I can't completely blame them, especially since freshman year I gained around 20 lbs and then a few more over the summer, which was all before they started placing their wagers. Its not like I don't know where the weight came from. In high school I was active and played sports, in college I stopped the sports, began to party. I was also a big eater in high school and never gained weight, which I guess you can see changed in college. I ate/drank too much, wasn't active and really should not be surprised that I gained weight.
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<p>You can't blame them at all. Regardless of what they do (ordering food, etc.), it's 100% your own choice. What actually happened is that you grew out of your adolescent metabolism. 3 years of consistent weight gain and you didn't bother to change anything. Jesus christ...</p>
<p>Just wanted to say that the people working at the gym probably won't judge you at all for asking how the equipment works. And also, at least for the cardio machines, they're pretty easy -- just step on, press the buttons, and go. You don't have to learn anything super complex.</p>
<p>Your housemates sound like catty brats, and taking bets on your weight (and encouraging you to GAIN weight) is ridiculous. They haven't treated you like friends and they aren't really your friends. I would move. Girl politics are complicated (that I know) but it seems like you've been the friend that they could put down to make themselves feel better. You don't deserve that, and you shouldn't put up with it.</p>
<p>If the weight gain is due to inactivity and lowered metabolism, you can change that. If you're not comfortable going to the gym or running, buy a $10 pedometer and start walking around your neighborhood - at least 45 minutes per night. Gradually work yourself up. Also, as much as it sucks -- cut out the junk food, especially the drunken munchies.</p>
<p>Most people aren't like your "friends" by the way -- don't become suspicious of those around you, I really <em>am</em> jealous of other girl's curves, and when I ask someone to go out to eat or bake something for them, it's because I enjoy their company. Not all girls are like your housemates =(</p>
<p>Go to the gym on your own, don't wait for others to tell you to do something if you really want this, go out on your own. Once you get in the rhythm of it, you will be comfortable.
But ya, they may be cruel but use it to your advantage, use it as motivation! Show them you are better than they are.
And it is not about "how much" in terms of weight, it is how you personally feel about yourself.</p>
<p>This is nothing more than a lazy fat person trying to put off her problem on other people. </p>
<p>This really isn't complicated at all. Eat healthier and work out and lose weight. Then maintain a healthy diet after you've lost the weight so you don't balloon up again.</p>
<p>You probably enjoyed gaining the weight more than they did. So go demolish another case of Twinkies, and then fold your midsection's flab over your face and gently cry yourself to sleep.</p>
<p>People can be so passive aggressive, it drives me insane. I would confront your friend and tell her that she is a rude, cruel, selfish human being. Tell it to her face, let your "friends" know that you're not playing into their hands anymore.</p>
<p>It sounds like they might have been jealous of you coming into college, and for this reason are perhaps gleeful that you have gained weight.</p>
<p>You should also use this as a wake-up call about your own health. Don't let mere shyness keep you away from the gym. This is your body you're talking about, if you keep this up you'll have heart problems galore. I'd go see somebody about your eating habits. It sounds like you have a binge-eating problem. When you're drunk you probably don't register when you're full as when you might do when you're sober.</p>
<p>Lay off the drinking with these girls. They obviously like to take advantage of you, and you probably make a fool of yourself while doing it.</p>
<p>I'm a mom and if you were my daughter, I'd be up there to help you move out tomorrow. Living by yourself is way better than living with a bunch of two-faced jerks. Ugh.</p>
<p>Sometimes it takes something horrible to make us realize we're off the track - so, sure, think it through and decide if you are taking care of yourself the way you want to. It is probably a good idea to cut out the drinking and get more active. However, that is <em>no</em> excuse for their treating you that way - that is outside the bounds of civilized behavior and you should not tolerate it. </p>
<p>No one can be defined by their weight or body size. I remember a dear friend who was <em>extremely</em> overweight. I, like everyone else, thought she just didn't have self control. That is, until we lived together for a few months and I found out that she ate about half what I did (and I weighed about half what she did). She just had a very different metabolism than I did. It taught me the lesson that you can <em>not</em> judge people by their weight - a lesson some posters on this thread have obviously not learned yet.</p>
<p>You can be a little overweight because of a slow metabolism, but you don't get obese like the OP without just being lazy.</p>
<p>People can be obese, that's their own prerogative. I can tolerate them and I don't make fun of them. But just the laziness and apathy that a person needs to posess to become obese completely turns me off that person.</p>
<p>akhman24- 203 lbs isn't necessarily obese. We've got no clue how tall the OP is. If the OP is 5' tall, 203 lbs is quite obese; but no so if the OP is 6' tall. </p>
<p>And some people do have health problems, such as with the thyroid, that make them predisposed to weigh a lot.</p>
<p>So confronting the housemate did not go well. A soon as I asked her if we could talk she got on the defensive saying not to blame her for my weight. To quote her, she just brought the food to me and I was the one that stuffed my face. She never thought I would let it go so far and I am soo gullible about how I looked. This just ****ed me off again and I told her to watch me lose the weight. </p>
<p>I then went for a very depressing jog/walk. I am soo out of shape. I could only go a few hundred feet before I needed to stop. My whole body jiggles and it actually hurt to jog. That when I lost and returned to my house in tears. I am huge, out of shape and none of my clothes fit. What has me the most upset is that I am starving right now.</p>
<p>As I have said in many of my posts I am not naive enough to blame my housemates for all the weight I gained. I am the one that put the food in my mouth. I don't know why I was in such denial about weight and now I am in over my head.</p>
<p>Unfortunitaly I am 5 ft 3 inches tall so the wieght is more noticble then it would be if I was taller</p>