<p>DD just indicated verbally to one school that she wanted to accept and sent an email to another that she feels she must turn it down. We are having second thoughts. Would it be completely unheard of to call both coaches tomorrow if the decision is made that it was the wrong decision? I assume that would be bad, but is was only hours ago and coach called 5 times in 3 days (did not leave messages) so she felt a lot of pressure, and we did not have time to sit down and talk things out fully. Going back on our word is not a regular occurrence here.. It seems so early to have to make a final decision. By what date do most recruited athletes (who do not go ED) have to make a decision? She just needs more time, but they have money (non Ivy) and spots (Ivy) to give to athletes who will accept them.</p>
<p>I would think it would be better to sit down and talk things through before she makes contact with anyone just to make sure it’s what she really wants to do.</p>
<p>i think it would be worse if she does go to the school and her heart is not in it , then she does not perform and is misrable.</p>
<p>I would talk with her today and if she wants to start over again she should call the schools and let them know, she might have a difficult time with the one that she is pulling out of but in the end if its the right decision then thats when she has to do. Better to do it 2 days after than 2 months. This will give thats school plenty of time to find a replacement recruit</p>
<p>Agree that sooner vs. later is the way to handle it. You may want to contact the school she turned down and see if the other offer is still open, it may not be. </p>
<p>Most coaches make offers to their top recruits first with the understanding that if they turn it down they offer it up to the next on the list and so on. Our experience was that you have a week or two to think about an offer but technically can change your mind up until the time you sign the NLI & Financial agreement. It does happen. </p>
<p>Just be sure you have a plan about what to do if the other offer is gone or has changed, before giving up the offer in hand.</p>
<p>It’s worse if she sticks with a bad decision. Top Drawer was having fun with a GNT recruit changing her mind four times, and finally going to the fifth school she verbally committed to.
And BTW, call the school that she would want to commit to first, get that settled, and only then call the other school to rescind the commitment. Worst thing you can do is reverse the commitment, then find out the other school changed its mind.</p>
<p>It’ll probably be fine if you get it done with sooner rather than later. College football programs (I’m unsure of other athletics) experience situations like this from most of their recruits year in and year out.</p>
<p>This actually happened to my DD. She verbally committed to a coach, though in her heart she knew that it was not her first choice school and program. About two days later she came to me very upset and panicked, knowing she made the wrong choice. She called the coach at the school that she really wanted, explained that she made an error, and was her spot still available. It was. He explained that he understood. She then called the coach she verbally committed to and explained that she had made an error in choice. He completely understood and was incredible gracious. He even said if things don’t work out at the other school to contact him.</p>
<p>In the end it all worked out (and turns out that the other coach left that school and wouldn’t have even been the coach). </p>
<p>Your DD needs to address this right away. She definitely should not go somewhere she doesn’t want to be. That’s a disaster in the making. If the coach doesn’t handle it well, then that’s a coach she wouldn’t want to play for anyway.</p>