How can I get a Date and make Friends at Howard? (Class of 2018)

Colleges and Universities A-Z Howard University
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<p>Class of 2018, just got accepted!</p>

<p>I know in college grades and studying are the most important thing. As well as being involved. But I have always been good at both of those things.</p>

<p>Guys on the other hand... not so much. I also went to a majority white school all of my life so I expect that the dating scene and practices will be different.</p>

<p>Given that there are way more girls than guys I'm afraid there will be girls throwing themselves at guys and I do not want to do that. No hate to the girls or guys involved but that is not me.</p>

<p>I will of course put my self out there but I don't want to jump into bed with guys every chance I get. </p>

<p>What can I do to compete against these other girls and still have a happy, healthy and productive dating life?</p>

<p>Anything that I should definitely do? Anything I should definitely avoid? Please help? </p>

<p>How wise is it to look outside of Howard for potential suitors? </p>

<p>Also are the guys looking more for flings or to settle down?</p>

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<p>In terms of friends how cliquey is it?</p>

<p>I come from a upper middle class / wealthy suburban area and as I said before it was mostly white. I have had black friends but when you are one of 25 things are a little different.</p>

<p>Is there a certain way that I should dress, act or talk? (I know that is shallow but I want friends). Certain activities that I should do?</p>

<p>I know networking and socializing can be important so what is the best way to do it?</p>

<p>Any thing at all would be helpful!!!!!</p>

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<p>“Is there a certain way that I should dress, act or talk? (I know that is shallow but I want friends). Certain activities that I should do?”</p>

<p>Okay…I don’t really get this question. You will want friends who share your interests and like you for who your are. Not friends you have to change your interests for or act differently around. I think just being yourself and joining activities you are interested in would be best rather than trying to create a new version of yourself for Howard. The school is big enough that you should find your niche. Well, at least I hope it is because I am hoping to find mine!</p>

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<p>I completely understand what you are saying, but if I am just myself I tend to alienate people, especially black people and I don’t want to do that. I don’t have the best social skills and just being myself I will not be able to find friends and I will end up alone and a loser like I did in high school. It is totally my fault I understand but I want to try and change that.</p>

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<p>I am in the same boat with you kind of… My whole district is majority white. I don’t know how to answer this but you won’t be a loner. I don’t think you should be so worried, you shouldn’t have to change yourself to find some real friends.</p>