<p>My older D wound up going to one of her safeties. She chose it over her “dream” school.</p>
<p>One of the first visits I took with younger D was to a safety. She really liked it and could see herself there. That has taken a lot of the pressure off this process. We also made sure she showed love to this school and her other safety so they would know she was genuinely interested. </p>
<p>D2 has a friend who is applying to no safeties. She and her parents decided she wouldn’t go to and/or they wouldn’t want to pay for any of the safeties the GC suggested so there was no sense in applying. If the matches and reaches don’t work out they will look to a gap year and reapplying later. It works for them but it would give me an ulcer.</p>