<p>Hi everyone, I've been trying everything from folders to powerpoints but they just won't agree. Originaly, I had been bugging my friend a while back and she asked "Have you even asked your parents? If they say yes, then you can come back and we'll talk about it.". So then that night, I went and asked my dad (ready to get no improvement) and he started saying "Your gonna have to work hard. No slacking, you have to be working 24/7 to get in." Is that a yes? It sure sounds like it. Then the next time I talked to them about it, they were all saying that there was no way I was going to go to bs. They said it was unrealistic and that they weren't going to let there kid go away. I don't know what to do! Everytime I mention it or they take a look on my computer to see what I'm doing they,always role their eyes. Does or Did anyone else have this problem? I'm not applying this year, but just getting ready. Does anyone have any ideas?</p>
<p>PS: The worst is when they go tell all my family and friends and stuff about what I want to do. They all start kind of laughing and stuff (even my current teacher knows from a parent confrence). The only person that knew any of the school's was my dad's co-worker when he said that he almost went to deerfield and that you should have your dad send you to Exeter.</p>
<p>At first this is exactly what happened to me. Your parents, like mine, have probably never thought about sending their child away. What you need to explain to them is that in sending you away you gain a great education and learn things beyond your current school setting. I have talked to kids who are already in bs, and I have talked to their parents too. They said that their relationship actually gets stronger, because communicating is more meaningful. Don’t give up and keep working hard in your current school and ECs.</p>
<p>Thanks, I think I also have to just decide to not be afraid of talking to them as much because I know they’re going to say no that time. Did you do anything else candidate123? What really sold your parents?</p>
<p>I basically took the initiative to arranging my interview and I also didn’t push to much, just gradually introduced the idea. What helped a little was a parent who’s kid was in boarding school and somewhat reassured my parents. Don’t worry to much about selling the idea, look more like your already working towards boarding school. E.G. getting grades and studying yourself for SSAT. You can also request admission materials online at the schools website. I did this myself, which showed my parents that I was really pursuing the idea, and that it wasn’t just a phase.</p>
<p>Yah your right. I should really try that, I’m already studying for the ssat and stuff. Maybe it’s that my parents are too afraid that it isn’t a phase. They still think I’m trying to leave them (which seems pretty normal with alot of parents), ugh.</p>
<p>It would help explaining to them the benefits, and that if you really wanted to leave them so badly you would be rebelling in other ways already. What schools are you applying to? You don’t have to say the exact names but are they part of the HADES group?</p>
<p>yah, I was really thinking about the HADES schools. I don’t know why, but I kind of like Emma Willard, I think that’ll change when I go take a tour. What about you?</p>
<p>applying to Hotchkiss, Andover, Exeter, and Saint Paul’s. If you consider a HADES school or something that has low acceptance you could also tell your parents that applying to a school with such a low acceptance rate would be ridiculous if you were trying to leave them for the sake of leaving.</p>
<p>true, I also like Andover’s f.a. We’re in that income bracket where you can kind of afford it and f.a. would really help out, but it seems like there isn’t much available for us. Since I’m not applying this year, I was prob. going to do the summer program. Have you done any of the summer sessions? Which one?</p>
<p>I have not. I’m also in that inbetween area, Andover’s need-blind policy is great. Have you talked to your parents about attending a summer session?</p>
<p>If you go to one and all goes well maybe your parents will allow you to go to bs. It’s possible that they think letting you go for the summer will get all of this out of your system. Either way don’t give up!</p>
<p>Hey, I agree with everything candidate said, but I just wanted to add some.
Don’t be afraid to ask. I applied to boarding school before and got accepted but ended not going because my parents said no, so this year I was really apprehensive about asking them because I thought they’d just say no again, so when I finally got the nerve to ask them I just explained why I wanted to go, all the opportunities, how horrible my school is (they knew that already), how I wasn’t applying just to leave, how these are the best schools in the country, how we could keep in touch (fb, skype, etc.) and how I would work hard for this. I also explained financial aid because we need it and my dad said yes, that if we got the fa I could go. Now I wish I had asked earlier because I waited so long and the deadline is fast approaching. So don’t be afraid to talk about, really be sincere and hopefully they will see how mature your being about it and how this is a great opportunity. Good luck :)</p>