<p>We’re not systematic, mathy people at all. We’re intuitive folk. Sometimes good, sometimes bad, like any other trait.</p>
<p>S had 34 ACT and very high GPA and very good EC’s, but nothing exceptional at all. (No Intel, Seimens, celebrity stuff. For example, one of his dear friends studied with Itzak Perlman for about five years and went to Julliard, junior division, every Saturday for longer than that. I would consider that a great EC.)</p>
<p>Daughter was very similar but not quite as high but 2100+ SAT.</p>
<p>We ruled out HYPS as being out of reach, and neither of them is MIT or CalTech types.</p>
<p>After that the reach schools were anyplace they really wanted to go but probably wouldn’t get in just on the basis on statistics or demographics.</p>
<p>S got into three reach schools, D didn’t.</p>
<p>However, her dream school was Columbia for many, many years. I told her (to her chagrin – she was angry with me) that she probably wouldn’t get in when she was in ninth grade. I could tell because I saw that wasn’t going to be able to maintain A’s in advanced math without tutoring, and she didn’t want that. Okay with me.</p>
<p>So I encouraged her to switch her dreams to Barnard.</p>
<p>But the time she applied to college she actually preferred Barnard. In fact, although not a reach, it was a dream school, her number 1. She preferred it to Brown, her reach school.</p>
<p>So, she was rejected by reach school but accepted by dream school.</p>
<p>As it worked out, one of her majors was offered only at Columbia, and she ended up taking 40% of her classes at Columbia. Barnard, however, remained her favorite. She preferred its classes, dorms, advising, etc, though she loved both schools.</p>
<p>To summarize: it was schools they loved that the thought they might be accepted at.</p>