For warming: HE ONLY SHOWERS ONCE A WEEK. sorry for the caps but the room is just beyond the most nastiest thing. Whenever I ask him to shower he says, “I’ll shower tonight.” That never happens and he always postpones it. I think he hasn’t showered since two weeks after we came back from spring break. He did shower the following week of spring break but never again.
Please any advice
Are you in a dorm? If so, talk to the RA.
As suggested talk to RA.
“Dude, you stink. Please take a shower, like now”
I was going to talk to RA but I felt like that was just between roommate and I
Ask him if he knows how bad he smells.
Do other people comment about his smell or the smell of the room?
He rarely leaves the room. Only goes outside when he needs to go to the bathroom. The past days he been having the flu.
I think you just need to say hey, you need to shower and you say you will but you don’t so I’m going to the RA. Then go to the RA.
If you have asked, and especially if you have said, “I feel really weird even having to bring this up, and I don’t want to make you feel bad, but you really need to shower more frequently because you small terrible.” and there is no change, ask your RA to step in.
It’s awkward, but it could also be a sign of a mental health issue. Few people actively choose to be so out of line with social norms. If he were hiking the Appalachian Trail, it’d make sense. But living down the hall from running hot water, no…
Talk to the RA for advise not to tattle tale. They won’t do anything right away. They will just give you some skills on how to handle the situation.
Some cultures don’t shower or use deodorant the way your customed to also. But leaving together with someone is a compromise and taking a shower shouldn’t be something you should have to ask more then once.
I had this problem in college. I asked my RA to talk to her, and she did. It helped.
OMG. I mentioned to him that he needs to shower. His excuse is always going to bed early.
his poor hygiene and rarity of being outside of the dorm could be a result of mental health issues. i would encourage him to go to counseling if available. i would talk to the R.A too.
Maybe get a new roommate?
Have an honest chat with him and tell that it really bothers you. If he still won’t comply, let it go. This semester is about to end. Get a different roommate next year. For surviving remaining days, use air freshener and antibacterial wipes, spend more time outside.
So your roommate doesn’t go to class or go out to eat?
Agree that you should involve the RA.
I hope you found a new roommate for next year.
"RA…I am concerned about my roommate. He hasn’t showered and barely left the room. I have asked him to take a shower multiple time and he says “i will tonite’ but doesn’t. I think he may be sick. I wanted to let someone know because I am concerned and also the room really smells.”
The roomate could have a mental health issues as well. Talk to the RA. Plus remember as stated. The year is almost up. Hopefully you will have better luck next year.
had the same issue once, you need to be honest. IF you ask to move you someone else will just be put in the same room. Ever since my troubles I have always made sure I have single room