<p>There are plenty of drinking/drugging and dying stories, too! As a mom, I know too many families whose lives have been forever changed by tragedy involving alcohol, drugs and driving. Be smart and live to tell!</p>
<p>To baseballmom: a lot of schools have it even more strict. Hotchkiss and Culver both have one-strike policies as far as alcohol and illicit drugs; Hotchkiss’ policy includes tobacco, while Culver’s does not.</p>
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Of course. However, a lot of people acted as if it doesn’t happen. Even the one strike policy doesn’t keep some people from doing it.</p>
<p>Something else kids need to consider re the disciplinary issues: The concept of “condoning”. Many BS have policies that you are not only in violation of rules if you actually broke them but you are also in violation if you were aware of the offenses but failed to remove yourself from the environment in a timely and realistic manner. You may not have actually put the bottle of liquor to your mouth, but if you hung out for a hour or so with kids who were drinking/smoking weed, you will be in violation of condoning rules. “I wasn’t doing it” is not an acceptable defense with the Discipline Committees.</p>
<p>May want to check the school’s policies regarding these type of rules before enrolling and determine if this is something you can live with. The rule of thumb, regardless of whether your prospective schools have these policies or not, you’d be wise to carefully consider who you choose to surround yourself with.</p>
<p>This is something that’s not usually on the front page of a website or viewbook but typically buried in the school handbook. Read the handbooks very carefully to see what the school is really like, things that the tour guide may or may not tell you. You can usually find the .pdf handbook if you do a search on the school’s site.</p>
<p>If I get into boarding school, I hope nothing happened to my bed…</p>
<p>It’s never worth it. Getting into boarding school is hard and sometimes it’s as hard as getting into the Ivy league. Just think of all the work you put in to getting in, how disappointed your parents, peers, teachers and admission officers would be!</p>
<p>I agree with baseballmom on this topic. One thing I think hasn’t been mentioned is that at least at the school my daughter went to (Hotchkiss), for them to leave campus, we had to call in and give permission and the parent at the home they were going to had to call and give permission. They just can’t leave and go to a party off campus. They also don’t have cars if they are boarders so to think they can get around as easy as when they were living at home is just not the case. Also, back to baseballmom, there is no second chance at BS. Those kids have worked hard to get in, they are extremely busy ALL the time, and they don’t want to get kicked out.</p>
<p>Some kids will do stupid things and get caught, some will do stupid things and not get caught, some will not do things stupid enough to get them thrown out. If you’re sensible enough to know what not to do, you won’t have to worry about getting away with stuff :)</p>