<p>...So I have a older sister who's a senior right now. All my life she's been known as the one who will make it big, to Harvard with her awesome soccer skills. But her SAT scores came in and they weren't perfect and lately her games are going down the drain. After my acceptance to a
a elite prep school, the light is on me for a change and my sister can't deal with it. It's like she's scared that there's a possibility I might be the one to succeed. She's become bitter and snarky to me, constantly telling me that I don't deserve this, that she's been through more (which is true). I know that she feels like a failure now but at the same time I want to scream in her face. This is finally something I can be proud of, something that makes me special. Why does she have to drag it through the mud? We've had countless arguements, all dealing about boarding school. I'm sick of it. Does anyone have this same problem? Any advice??</p>
<p>Ear plugs, large suitcase, count down to departure. She is on her own. You can both be a success. Why is this a zero sum game?</p>
<p>I have a pretty snarky sister myself (at boarding school, thank God), and my only advice to you, although you've probably heard it before, is to ignore her. She'll get over it eventually, and is she doesn't, that's her problem, not yours. My sister's finally getting better, but most of my life she was a total female dog to me, and if I'd payed attention my self-esteem would be at the level of suicide right now. Just be proud of yourself!</p>
<p>Try being more sympathetic and understanding and take the high road. As Hazmat stated, there is room for both of you to be a success.</p>
<p>I don't want to leave to go to boarding school knowing that me and my sis have problems. I want it all to clear out. Should I just let her blow it out in time?</p>
<p>What you want and what your sister can deliver are two different things. Don't pin your happiness in leaving for a great adventure on her actions. You will be returning and it sounds as if she will be leaving for college while you are still at home. Likely she departs first. That gives you an easy out.</p>
<p>I've been experiencing the same thing with my brother. He's at boarding school, and I was accepted at the school he goes to, but chose not to go, because to be honest it's just not up to the same par academically. My brother was looking through the admissions catalouge for my school of choice (NMH) and he was making fun of all of the kids in the catalogue "oh look at this stupid a** prep, I can't believe your going to school with these a**holes" and I just snapped. I yelled at him about how he was only making fun of them because he knew he could never get into the school, which was pretty mean, but, I was fed up with him making fun of my accomplishments, and downsizing them. My brother is a musical prodigy, and my whole life I've been in his shadow, despite my academic and athletic acomplishments. I've been sick of it for a long time, and my parents only encourage his enormous ego. He seems intimidated by the fact that I'm doing well, and it's no fun for me. I sympathize with you guys majorly, and am uber-glad that my brother is at boarding school. We're out of here in a few months, so just we'll just have to brave it out.</p>
<p>Look at the bright side. You'll have lots to talk to your therapist about when you are older.</p>
<p>Seriously, though, this competition between siblings is possibly a dynamic set up by your parents. It is natural for kids to compete for their parents' attention and admiration. It is up to the parents to overcome this and allow each child to shine in his or her own way. Most of us parents are pretty bad at this, probably because we are repeating the patterns set by our own parents. So it is up to you kids to overcome our bad parenting. If your sister (or brother) is threatened by your success, recognize it for what it is. Sometimes the best way to alter another person's behavior is to model the behavior you wish them to exhibit. Grit your teeth and be happy for their successes.</p>
<p>well, point out to her that all your life she's been in the spotlight and it's about time you've has some of the attention</p>
<p>It is an interesting story. I do not know about this since I do not have any sister or brother. But I always wish that I had a brother or sister.</p>