<p>High school was not a good time in my life. High school screwed me socially.
In 10th grade I got screwed over by all of my friends. In 11th grade, I pretty much kept to myself and did my own thing. In 12th grade I went to community college to complete my senior year of high school.
I am now a freshman at the community college, and am looking to transfer in the spring to a university(2 universities are about 3 hours away, and 1 is a little less than 2 hours away). I know that I am ready to transfer academically, as I have a 2.85 GPA, which isn't great, but it's respectable to the universities that I'm looking into.
I just don't think that I'm ready socially. After my friends screwed me over, I basically just had myself and my family. There were people that I was friendly with, but nothing that turned into lasting friendships. My issues are, I think that people judge me. I think they look at me and point out all of my flaws in their head. I also get intimidated by girls easily. I have a low self esteem and am not very confident. I was not always like this though.
My point is, my parents don't think that I may be ready to go away to a university because of my insecurities with myself. I am trying to work on them though.
When you went off to college, how did you know that you were ready? Did you have some insecurities with yourself when you first went to college? Did you not think you were ready when you went to college? If you didn't think you were ready, how did things turn out for you?
I do know at least one person that goes to each of the colleges I'm looking into.</p>
<p>Look, I’m just going to be blunt with this: You’re still very bitter and unwilling to accept any responsibility for things that happened in your life in the 10th grade, and you have a 2.85 GPA at community college. I don’t think you’re ready for a four year university. Period. We could quibble on the academic side of things, and it is possible that you’d be fine there, but socially, I do not think you are mature enough to succeed at a four-year university, particularly one that is any distance from home.</p>
<p>You are not ready for college. I can tell just by the fact that you posted this.</p>
<p>When you know the difference between “your” and “you’re.”</p>
<p>Everyone has worries when they go to college, but seriously Chesire, it’s how you deal with them that makes you “ready” for college.</p>
<p>transfers2010, from rereading my post, i did not use the word ‘your’ in my thread.</p>
<p>Yeah, it’s only in the title.</p>
<p>K, whatever.</p>
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<p>This just about sums up what I was going to say. I will say that I think you’ll make it, because I was not entirely unlike you when I was 18-19 and I eventually hit a huge growth spurt in terms of maturity and was no worse for wear, but you really need to work on this aspect of yourself. And the fact that you are so focused on this when your parents already told you they aren’t going to support you going. You need to be real with yourself or you are not going to succeed.</p>
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<p>I agree with all of the previous posts. My best advice would be to stay in community college, work on your academics and raise your GPA, learn to make friends, and possibly talk to a therapist. (Even healthy people talk to them!)</p>
<p>Address your personal, social, emotional issues with a therapist. Remain at community college. The additional time at the community college level should help you gain skills necessary to help you succeed in a more rigorous environment. </p>
<p>You’ll be ready to move on to a 4-year residence college after you’ve successfully dealt head on with your emotional issues (with the help of counseling) AND succeeded at the community college level by earning a minimum of a 3.0 GPA.</p>
<p>I’m going to be the optimist here. I think everyone is being too harsh. It’s not uncommon to have concerns about going away to college. Actually, going to a four year school and throwing yourself into such an environment could be what you need to change or become the person you want to be. I think it’s more difficult to change without a change in environment. </p>
<p>It may be hard to make friends, but eventually you will, especially if you’re dorming. People say clicks form within the first month of school, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doomed in the friendship department. I found myself making new friends in my second semester and I wasn’t even trying! </p>
<p>It really is a matter of just being open in hanging out with people. I had people screw me over in high school too. I went from having a reasonable amount of close friends to only 1. Senior year, I pretty much kept to myself because I was just done with people in my class. I mean I was friendly, but I knew I wouldn’t keep in contact with most of them because I knew I was going to college three hours away, where I could make totally new friendships that I would actually want to keep. I was tired of the fakeness and drama of high school; it was ridiculous. High school and its people just seemed so frivolous to me senior year; I spent my lunch time in the library by choice because I was just tired of high school. </p>
<p>And I’m having a fantastic time at college. I’ve always been suited for college and I couldn’t be happier. I mean I never dealt with serious insecurity issues, but everyone is is insecure sometimes. It really is a matter of pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone. Personally, if you stay home and continue to go to community college, you will still be in your comfort zone. And if you turn out not liking being away at a four year school, you can always transfer. But remember, you don’t have to think it’s because you’re insecure. There are plenty of people who discover that they don’t really like being away at school, or they just don’t necessarily like that particular school.</p>
<p>Dreamin, You’re correct mentioning that it’s not uncommon to have concerns about going off to college. The difference here is that Cheshire has a long history of posting numerous posts and threads regarding various emotional, social, and academic issues.</p>
<p>^ Agreed. When it comes to someone who mentions their issues so many times, it’s not really accurate to say, “Well, I adjusted fine, so everyone else will too.”</p>
<p>goddammit I was gonna point out the grammar error but transfers2010 beat me to it
and I think you just know if you’re ready…if you’re unsure–then you’re not ready</p>
<p>I know what my issues are and what I need to do to work on them, and I’m going to be working on them for the next 4 months and then determine if I’m ready or not to transfer. </p>
<p>Everyone on CC thinks that all colleges are like the ivies. I’m not trying to get into the ivies. I live in PA, which has the PASSHE, which means that there are 14 universities in the state of PA that are state funded. They are also easy to get into, as you need a 2.0 to be considered for admission. Some of the universities require a 2.5 GPA for consideration because of high demand. But I am not looking at those schools. So if you only need a 2.0 to be considered, I think I’m fine with a 2.8. People transfer with a 2.5. A 2.8 isn’t great, but it is respectable to the colleges that I’m looking into. So please, stop trying to tell me that a 2.8 isn’t going to get me anywhere, because it’s not just the GPA, it’s the schools that you want to go with that GPA, and the schools that I want to go to are not any ivies or top notch private schools.
Also, my thread on here was to get info on other peoples experience with being ready for college. My question was not asking your opinion if I’m ready or not for college. So I really can’t take anyone’s advice on this thread because no one answered my question.</p>
<p>How do you know you’re ready for college?</p>
<p>You know you’re ready for college when you are emotionally able to balance the academic and social aspects of your life. You know you’re ready for college when you have the confidence to try to handle situations on your own before calling your parents to step in and help. You know you’re ready for college when you can take constructive criticism with grace and learn from it. You know you’re ready for college when you can multitask. You know you’re ready for college when you can stand up to peer pressure. You know you’re ready for college when you can ask for help when needed rather than cower in your room and struggle. You know you’re ready for college when you have a good sense of right and wrong and are mature enough to a think before you act. You know you’re ready for college when you take responsibility for the things that happen in your life rather than place blame onto others. You know you’re ready for college when you are confident in your ability to advocate for yourself. You know you’re ready for college when you can accept people for who they are whether they share your beliefs or not. You know you’re ready for college when you are willing to open your mind to new ideas and people. </p>
<p>Here’s the big twist: Sometimes the people who know they are ready for college, soon discover they are not ready. Sometimes the people who think they aren’t ready for college transition beautifully.</p>
<p>I’m in college and I still don’t know if I am ready. I guess you will get a “gut” feeling.</p>
<p>@nysmile: I’d just like to say, that those ending two sentences were beautiful. I’m serious.</p>