How do you tell them?

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<p>School #1. My D had a really good scholarship offer from a low cost school. They also offered her a scholarship to attend free summer classes to prepare to Fall 2014.. It was an offer we couldn't resist. So I told her to sign up. By submitting her application for this scholarship, my D had to check the box: "Yes, I intend to attend University of ----- Fall 2014".
D won't know if she's a recipient of this scholarship until April 1st. </p>

<p>School #2. Then two weeks later, D got an acceptance letter to a higher ranking school. They offered her a decent scholarship and a chance to take a FREE 1 credit course during her freshman year. To show interest in the scholarship, D signed a contract stating that she will maintain the minimum required GPA, along with attending a 1 hour per semester meeting with the program coordinator. </p>

<p>School #3. Then in recent weeks, D got accepted into another higher ranking school with a OMG (oh my God) scholarship offer. This is a dream school for D. But D is still waiting on her financial aid package. She needs another $15,000, so we are not sure if she's going to get additional money or not.</p>

<p>Question: How do we go about turning down School #1 and School #2?
Did I give my D bad advises by telling her to accept the better offer as they come in the mail? The school was rushing for us to respond so we did. And we responded with good intentions...........at the time. </p>

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<p>Dear College X,</p>

<p>This is to inform you that my plans for the fall have changed, and I will not be attending this fall. I would like to express my sincere appreciation to everyone in the admissions office who read my application, and to the scholarship committee for their truly generous offer.</p>

<p>Sincerely,</p>

<p>DofLanaHere</p>

<p>Or some such words to those effects. You and your daughter have been doing the right thing. She’s just indicated that if everything works out, she will attend these places. The final details aren’t in, so she can’t make her final commitment. The institutions that pushed to get her to commit early were, well, overly pushy. She has until May 1 to decide. And even if she does, she still can change her mind right up until it is time to send off the check for the fall tuition/fees/housing.</p>

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<p>The word from School #1 is “I intend to”. You D did intend to attend at the moment when she clicked on it. Now new changes have made your D to consider other choices. There is nothing wrong about it.</p>

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<p>@happymomoof1 Thank you for writing the letter for D. lol . And thanks for the additional information. I sure did not know that she has until fall of 2014 to change her mind. I thought for sure she’s in trouble for saying yes to both schools.</p>

<p>@ccdfor2 That makes a lot of sense. Thank you!</p>

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<p>I think she only has until May 1st to commit to college, not the fall of 2014.</p>