<p>My parents are really involved with some things, not so involved with others. In terms of transportation and financial support they are there when I need them (though I take busses to almost all of my ECs). As for school they expect me to go to college, beyond that it is up to me/tend to support my decisions. I am not pressured to take hard classes/get the grades I do, they just expect me to try hard in whatever I pursue.</p>
<p>My parents aren’t really super involved in anything. They’ve obviously instilled in me that I should succeed academically from an early age, but since middle school, my grades have been available online and my parents have never even been on the site once. Whereas I have some friends whose parents check weekly. </p>
<p>I sign myself up for my SATs, ACTs, etc. I do my college apps and everything by myself. They know where I’m applying and occasionally give input, but I did all of the research solo and basically just relayed my decisions to them afterward. They haven’t read over any of my essays either… I got a car this year, so I don’t rely on them for rides anymore… They know what ECs I’m involved in, but not too many particulars. My dad comes to my soccer games because he’s super into athletics, but that’s it. I stay after school until at least 4 everyday for ECs and my parents never ask which specific one; it’s just an unsaid thing that I’m clearly busy. They know that I’m taking intense classes at school, but it’s not as if they know my schedule by heart or anything. At this point, I get good grades for myself, and I am the main source of pressure in my life. My parents reward me for good grades sometimes, but I would do it regardless. </p>
<p>My parents also let me exercise my judgement most of the time. I don’t really have a set curfew, specific rules about things. I’ve never been grounded. Yet I always keep my own room & bathroom clean, feed my dog, come home at reasonable hours, etc. And if my parents ask me to help with something specific around the house then I always do it. I get about $25 a week, which accounts for school lunch and anything else. Whatever else is left I slowly save up and that’s my personal allowance for hanging out with friends, random Starbucks, clothes, electronics, etc. I’m not completely independent, but everything is relatively laissez-faire for me…</p>
<p>Oh, my parents? Involved? Not really, but that’s fine with me. My dad’s kind of my source of transportation, but I don’t talk to him nor does he to talk to me about school that much. He was an average student in school and my mom didn’t go to college, so I’m pretty much on my own. I like it that way.</p>
<p>My parents left it up to me to find where I wanted to go. They wanna know the plans but it’s ultimately my decision.</p>
<p>And while they care about how I do in school, they don’t care as much as they used to and trust that I’ll get the grades I want.</p>
<p>My dad is retired and extremely involved. He basically checks my grades every hour of the day, and he actually filled out all of my college applications (except the essays) and spends all day researching colleges. I’m pretty sure he is more freaked out about this than I am.</p>
<p>Cynosuree, wow. I feel like that would make me feel so claustrophobic!</p>
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<p>I feel like there are better ways to teach the value of money than by stressing your daughter out all the time about whether she can afford basic necessities. We’re in high school; our job should be to learn and grow- * that * lesson is one I’m sure everyone learns sooner than later.</p>
<p>They are extremely involved financially. They pay for everything - my gas (which I take to school, to sports, and for leisure), my food (we get free breakfast and lunch), my clothes and my electronics. I am very grateful to be this privileged especially considering we don’t have that much money. </p>
<p>Outside of finances, though - they aren’t really involved in much else. I drive everywhere I need to go on my own, handle all my college-related things on my own, and they pretty much support me with whatever I do with minimal interference. I am very lucky and privileged in that respect. :)</p>
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<p>Any minimum wage job can cover the basic necessities. Parents won’t let the child go without if some mistake occurs. The stress doesn’t come from that.</p>
<p>It’s seeing the money dwindle with each expenditure, the self-exploration involved in the doing of things you’d rather not do in order to buy things you aren’t sure you want, that constitutes the learning experience. You get a better idea of who you are, what you want, and what is valuable.</p>
<p>It also helps ease your parents’ load.</p>
<p>My mom has paid for everything she’s had the funds for. I am extremely grateful. She blames herself for the hardships we’ve been through, however, and for that I’m pretty sad. :\ She’s a single parent, so I don’t expect too much involvement. I did my college list on my own (researched extensively), signed up for tests, bought study guides on eBay, wrote my essays, contacted my old hs for transcripts and teacher recs and even took a gap year on my own judgment. I ensured my classes while in high school were the most rigorous and brought home straight As (expected). We didn’t have money for lots of outside travel for ECs, so I limited myself to a few afterschool clubs. I’m super involved in my mom’s business, lol. For reasons. xD<br>
I still don’t drive, but I’m working on it (we haven’t had a car for a couple years and we’ve just relocated to a different state). I’m a pro at riding the bus in my new area, though. I’m looking for a job now to take care of any future fees relating to the college process and to supplement my mom’s income. I’ve always been rather independent, Imo. :D</p>
<p>Maybe its a cultural difference, but I think in high school, you should focus on your studies and learning and exploring rather than work. My culture tends to divide up a persons life into stages and the first quarter or so is reserved for growth after which you move onto work and stuff. Maybe it’s a western thing.</p>
<p>That aside, its amazing to see how much it varies. I’m very grateful for what I get. Academics come first, ofc. My parents aren’t involved in college search stuff because I think that they think it’s a little stupid, coming from a place where people usually aspire for top schools but do tend to nag me about things…I will freely admit that it’s occasionally helpful.</p>
<p>Follow up question: will you miss home/ your parents when you go off to college?</p>
<p>I was talking to one of my friends and she said she’s just tired of the same old same old and just wants to leave. I personally don’t love where I live but I think there are definitely aspects that I would miss.</p>
<p>My parents aren’t involved at all… I do my homework on my own, reach for a’s on my own (my mom would be fine if I walked home with an f…) , join clubs and strive to do my best on my own. My mom only gets involved if I want certain classes or have a problem with a teacher. Last year she had meetings with the principle and my counselor about being out in ap physics as a sophomore and taking pre Calc over the summer online.</p>
<p>I think I’ll definitely miss home and my parents when I go off to college! I’m moderately aware that I occasionally underappreciate the value of having my parents around, and I know that’s going to hit hard in college. I don’t think I’m one of those kids who has some crazy, super close, best friends forever type of relationship with my parents, but I really do feel lucky to have them and I’m an only child, so they’ve basically always been the two main family forces in my life. It’s weird; whenever I go away, I never get extremely homesick, but sometimes I can get emotional just talking to my parents on the phone. As for home in the sense of my town, I don’t like my town that much; it’s basic suburbia, but I’ll probably miss the sense of comfort and the people that I love.</p>
<p>If I didn’t live in Fl, I’d stay in-state. I hate where I live, but I’ll definitely miss my family. When I went to summer@Brown, as much as I loved it, I still struggled to adjust during the first week. I still called home every single day at least once. My mom and I are particularly close. Next year when I go to college, I know I’m going to get myself involved in clubs and such so I can socialize and get adjusted more quickly. I know it’ll be hard, but I need to get out of the awful place.</p>
<p>I’m totally on my own. I’ve been in college for over a year,and neither of my parents even knew about it.</p>
<p>To some extent sponsorship 
Tuition, car insurance, applications, standardized tests (okay I had to chip in $100 that I earned to last year’s AP tests), club dues…
And this sponsorship does limit me to the cheapest of colleges that I can attend though, but otherwise, I enjoy lots of freedom to do my own work, extracurriculars, studying, and earn whatever passing grades that gets through. :)</p>
<p>And for the followup, I’m not leaving home for college, I may even stay home until I can afford a house down payment from a job. At least I don’t have to worry about debt and I can do occasional visitations / sneak back on campus / attend youth groups where I keep intact with everyone I know.</p>
<p>My mom tries to be pretty involved. She doesn’t want me to work so I can concentrate on my schoolwork, so she pays for me for pretty much everything. I’m expected to get good grades, and I’m not rewarded for them like some people are. I also don’t get an allowance.</p>
<p>With college, I was/am expected to fill out applications on my own, find colleges to apply to, arrange visits/travel on my own. Mom said that she would take care of the FAFSA and CSS Profile since our financial situation is confusing.</p>
<p>I have the freedom to join the ECs I wish, take the classes I want, and do pretty much what I want, since my mom trusts me. It’s much appreciated, and I suppose it’s what’s kept me from acting out like my friends with strict parents have.</p>