<p>Many good perspectives, opinions, and geographical area constraints for sure. </p>
<p>My parents legally immigrated from Switzerland in the early 1950’s (when everyone was immigrating legally, lol) for better opportunities in the U.S. My dad had finished one year of ag apprenticeship before entering U.S. (but his older brother was inheriting the sizable family farm, so dad and younger brother were sponsored by uncle in TX who first was a farmer then owned an oil rig firm - sort of self made man, saw the opportunity in his area and went for it). Back then you had to have someone sponsor you so that you would not be a burden on U.S. taxpayers, again lol. My mom did a sewing apprenticeship and was sponsored by her dad who purchased a paint store and built up a construction company. Dad was drafted and used GI bill to learn masonry trade, and eventually bought out family construction business, diversified to be even more successful. Before kids, mom ran her own sewing/tailoring shop, and continued sewing for one customer for many years (short lady who wanted to dress with style and could not easily buy off the rack at that time). H’s parents (also in WI) valued education and 4/4 graduated from private colleges at great financial strain - H had relatively small ($7000) student loan; brother had $20,000 or $30,000 loans due to going to ND (wasn’t as pricey then - as well as margin between public and private was not so vast).</p>
<p>My parents also valued college education (at the time, thought as a necessity for real financial success). When I went, as I said, private in state was not much more than public in state (WI). 4/5 have college degrees (all WI, mine 4 year private with double major graduated in 8 sem; sis went two years private, rest public; brothers went public) while other is a successful trades-person/business owner. Back then there were boomerang students too, and parents made it clear we were on our own with college degree.</p>
<p>In our area (N AL), we decided to make the financial sacrifices for Christian schooling through HS. Kids benefited from faith education plus better learning schedule (modified block VS public block in HS). Since I also lived through stage III cancer, faith has been even more important life aspect in our family. Public offered a few more AP courses, but again overall pool of students and education level/classes all year with faith outweighed public. Kids had lots of educational opportunities (lots of summer programs, music - piano and band instrument, one had one overseas trip England/France, other had two, Australia and China; both All State Band or Orchestra and college band scholarships) they had significant opportunities considering our income level. Steered both students to take full advantage of in state opportunities, and both went to schools that offered them the best scholarship and was also their first choice (we have local public in the event needing to save room/board). However we have saved and also kids got some grandparent life insurance $$ - expect both to finish debt free with $$ to spare. Invested money has grown and continues to grow. One wants to go via military through graduate and hopes to get ‘picked up’ in the fall; other is in 5 year STEM MBA (will have enough money for 5th year). Older student has study abroad scholarship so is taking advantage of it June/JL/Aug - scholarship is paying for two week course, rest of money is coming out of college funds set aside (will have places to stay with host family, relatives, and friends; will be paying for some meals the rail passes and tourist stops). I have only been able to visit Swiss relatives using limited vacation time, and my last trip was 16 years ago - since then, resources pretty much going to kids’ expenses, college savings, saving for retirement.</p>
<p>I do sympathize with expensive areas where job opportunities for parents is limited with rising costs; also areas like Hawaii is limiting with high cost there and high cost coming mainland. The key thing is to see what opportunities are there, what student aptitude, interest is, and trying to instill work ethic and all the other things parents try to model and shape so that their children can move forward in life.</p>
<p>If we had more than two children, our choices and student opportunities would have been different - because you can only stretch the money so far. We paid $50,000 in HS expenses; a 3rd would have broken the bank or we would have had to really scrimp in other areas - like driving beaters and not making any trips to see family OOS.</p>