<p>Does your daughter really want to go to BS herself? She doesn’t sound like a particularly motivated individual, and those are the kinds of people that suffer, no matter how nurturing the school. If she can complete the application herself, and prepare for the SSAT, and be motivated enough to do it herself and get in, then she should go to boarding school. If not, maybe you should rethink. Just some thoughts from a sophomore at Exeter.</p>