<p>Someone who is my pretty good friend snubbed me today when he refused to help me on a laboratory writeup. What should I think about him now? I like his personality, but this action appears to me as selfish and arrogant. I'm not so sure if I want to be friends with him now.</p>
<p>EDIT: Sorry for the crappy grammar in the title, not in the best of moods right now and didn't get a full night's sleep.</p>
<p>You should not have to ask how to judge people. You will have to set your own standards and values in life to which you adhere. A spiteful person will tell you to ignore him, while a more forgiving one will tell you to forget the matter. You must decide for yourself.</p>
<p>I second what degeneration said. But on a sidenote, why should your friend have to help you with a lab writeup? The only reason I could see as an acceptable reason is that you were lab partners and it's a writeup you're SUPPOSE to do together or because he worked with you and has data you need. But other than that, why should he have to help you</p>
<p>He doesn't have to help me, if he is not my friend. Friends are supposed to help each other on certain things. If they don't, then how can they still be friends? Does your friend HAVE to lend you money for lunch when you leave your wallet at home? No, but he would be acting like your friend for doing so.</p>
<p>It's not like I had trouble doing the lab, I just made a calculation error somewhere and wanted to compare steps to figure out where I made the error. That's what friends are for. Unfortunately, he did not act like a friend in that instance.</p>
<p>Wow, if you're feeling froggy leap. Calm down. I don't think a friend has to help you with school work. I know I wouldn't expect a friend to sit down with me to compare results.</p>
<p>I would. There are only a few people I'd consider friends. I'd help them with anything and I feel like they'd help me as well. Everyone else is just an acquaintance and trust me OP, 90% of the people that you consider friends aren't really friends.</p>
<p>Maybe he was busy. I don't think not helping you write a lab report is that big of a deal.</p>
<p>Well, what was his excuse? Friends should help friends out, but friends also don't have the right to impose and judge when someone doesn't want to do something. What if he had his own work? Even if you guys were writing the same report, you could have easily just asked him a few questions that wouldn't have involved him needing to sit down and walk you through it.</p>
<p>dude...you can't judge person off one action...even 5. It takes time.</p>
<p>Sometime in the next four years, you might learn that the world does not revolve around you.</p>
<p>I think you should report him to local authority. He clearly can't be trusted roaming freely in civil society.</p>
<p>Not to sound like a dick, but seriously, what kind of thread is this?
Go blog till you die and post your rants on myspace.</p>
<p>omfg this is ridiculous HAHAHAH. "Friends are for comparing calculations."</p>
<p>ROFLCOPTER</p>
<p>Clarification: I did not ask him to sit down with me, I asked him a few questions on IM, and he said ask the professor, and signed off.</p>
<p>Looking over it, I might have over reacted. Because I help others when they have questions, I feel offended when people don't help me- although he could have been busy, his internet could have been cut off, etc. I guess I will give him the benefit of the doubt.</p>
<p>His parents could have walked in on him looking at porn. The ole finger-to-the-power-button trick. ;)</p>
<p>He is clearly a terrible friend for not dropping whatever he was doing to do your homework.</p>
<p>Honestly, I agree with most everyone here that it's not really that big of a deal. Friends are friends, in part, because they are willing to help each other, care about each other, etc., but think of all the reasons your friend might have acted that way -- perhaps he was tired since it was the end of a long day for him (hence he really didn't have the energy to walk you through these problems), perhaps he had just helped another few friends on assignments or somebody was a jerk to him and so he felt just a bit irritable and, therefore, felt like he didn't have the patience to go through your homework with you (and didn't want to show that impatience later), or maybe he was busy, or maybe it was that his internet got disconnected or he had to go do something else immediately and so just gave you a quick "handle it yourself" type of answer... I mean, sure, maybe he secretly hates you and wishes you'd go away and never return, but isn't it also possible there are other possible reasons?</p>