I need advice--please read and put your opinion!

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>Hey guys,</p>

<p>There's this guy that I sit next to in Physics and I swear to you he's so arrogant. I felt bad for him in the beginning of the year and now I don't anymore. Basically what happened is that he keeps asking me for my ACT flashcards that I paid for when I took a Kaplan course. I don't mind lending them to my friends because they actually are nice to me and help me out in subjects that I struggle with. I wouldn't mind lending them to him, but he never ever helps me out in Physics whenever I need help. He has the answers, but he won't give me a little hint on how to solve the problems. He mooches answers off of everyone in the class and never helps anyone out. In other words, he's selfish. So last week he asked me again for the flashcards and I said no because he never helps me out with anything, so why should I help him out. I told him that he can buy test prep books or enroll in a test prep course if he's willing to spend that much money. Then he told one of my friends that I was a b i t c h because on our last Physics test he helped me out. That wasn't true because we were supposed to work together on the test and he ended up mooching answers off of my teacher and handing in his test before me. He always gets involved in my conversations with other people, and whenever I talk to my friends about applying to a certain college, he always listens. I hate how he acts like he's better than everyone else, and then he either uses people for answers or acts really needy. I'm going to strangle this kid if I have to sit next to him for another ten weeks. And then I lent out my cards to one of my friends who shares a locker with him and she's telling me that it seems like there are quite a few cards missing from the rubber-banded stack. She also said that she doesn't trust him, and has a suspicion that he took some cards from her backpack. </p>

<p>And then what irritates me is that he is constantly putting me down and saying that I don't know anything about Physics. I'm so p i s s e d off that he has a higher grade than me in Physics. I work so hard trying to figure out the problems and he just copies them off the board while my teacher is going over the answers or mooches the answers off of different groups. I actually stayed after school for help and I get a lower grade. He doesn't do his homework, he gets my teacher to help him out on every problem on a test and he gets a higher grade??? Science is my best subject and I don't understand how he is getting a higher grade than me. </p>

<p>Any advice on how to deal with this situation?</p>

<p>Sorry for the long post there. ;)</p>

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<p>sorry about the spacing out of certain words.... I won't do it again..I promise.</p>

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<p>aww..smurfette i feel bad for you..its terrible sitting next to someone like that. Why don't you ask your teacher if you can sit somewhere else where there are nice ppl. For grades, all I can say is try your hardest. Remember though, u are winning in the long run 'cuz u are actually learning not him. Make friends with someone else who is smart in your class so you can discuss problems with them...trust me discussing with smart ppl will make you smart.</p>

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<p>You get to work together on physics tests! Blasphemy!!!!</p>

<p>*Sorry, that's all I had time to think about. Off to frisbee!</p>

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<p>maybe he gets higher grades than you cause hes smarter...</p>

<p>itd be hilarious if he really was stealing the cards, lol, what a dirtbag...
theres supposed to be a certain number right? so count them and see if he is, if he is then confront him and just spread the word that hes a bum...</p>

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<p>bring a shotgun to school... that will set him straight... i promise.</p>

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<p>If I were you, I'd ask the teacher to change my seat. I wouldn't necessarily say that the person is the problem, since the teacher could just say, "Well, you're almost an adult now. You've got to work out these things on your own." If the seat is in the back of the room, it'd be easy to attribute the problem to bad concentration and being unable to see and hear the teacher properly.</p>

<p>Although if you sit near the front, that excuse wouldn't work so well. =/</p>

<p>Sounds like an awful situation, though. I can feel my anger rise just by reading your post. I cannot stand people like that; it's bad enough that you have to actually sit next to him.</p>

<p>In any case, I know this sounds corny, but maybe you should confront the kid yourself? Tell him that you despise his attitude and that his asking for your flashcards is only part of the problem. I mean, it's best to see what the kid actually has to say in defense and if he's going to try to be nicer. Otherwise your teacher/guidance counselor will think you didn't try everything if you go straight to them.</p>

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<p>(first of....I am really sorry about what happened...that isnt me...and I want to apologize)</p>

<p>I have a very similar problem...specifically and generally</p>

<p>There is one person that always tries to get all types of work and answers from me....but he never does anything for me...and is extremely arrogant.....</p>

<p>Generally people that I am aquantinces with always ask for answers to a certain class that i had before them......they find out the hard questions and then ask me........if i go them wrong why should i help them if they never do anything for me?</p>

<p>I try to avoid the situation..but i guess u cant.....talk to the teacher...but ask him to not openly make a big deal of it</p>

<p>Again I am sorry...its not me</p>

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<p>just curse him out in the hallway one good time........ he'll laugh about it but it will embarass him deep down.</p>

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<p>I pretty much yelled at him in Trig class last week not to talk to me anymore, and he hasn't since. But he talks to himself in Physics (I unfortunately have to continue to sit next to him and we sit up at the very front of the room). I have to cover up my test tomorrow so he won't be tempted to cheat off of me.</p>

<p>Btw, we only had one group test, now we are on our own. We are doing vectors and 2D motion and I have a test tommorow.
Wish me luck.</p>

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<p>I just found out that the kid that sits next to me got an A+ on our Physics test. It was all story probs and it was worth 150 pts for five problems. I know there's no way that he got a perfect grade honestly because my teacher was helping him out the entire time. I only got an A- on the test w/out the help of my teacher. It upsets me because he doesn't do his h/w, doesn't study, doesn't do anything and he gets an A+ while I study, do my h/w, and I stayed two days after class just for review. </p>

<p>I'm not the only one upset and I want to tell my teacher about this but I don't know how. </p>

<p>Does anyone have any advice????</p>

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<p>I'm sorry if this is like really insensitive or something, but why do people have such a huge problem sharing answers? </p>

<p>I don't mind sharing my answers with anybody because I know that I learned the stuff already by solving the problem and if they don't want to do the problems then they'll just have to live with the consequences (lower test grades because they don't really know how to work out the problems, guilt because they feel like they're cheating, etc.) It's really their loss if they don't want to do it themselves. </p>

<p>Sorry </p>

<p>To the OP, I wouldn't share my study cards with him if I were you. Not because he didn't give you the answers but more because of his attitude. He sounds unappreciative and he should learn that in order to get something he should expect to give something first.</p>

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<p>Answer munchers don't always get lower grades and rarly face consequences in my expierence</p>

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<p>same....cuz they usually seem to ask for answers on the more pertent quiz/test/lab ..........otherwise they souldnt care if it didnt affect their grade</p>

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<p>Wow, you need to chill out a bit. If you feel bad about kids getting helped along from the teacher the whole time, I'm sure you can do the same thing. If they're doing it, why shouldn't you?</p>

<p>Either that or you guys should date. Hahahaha</p>

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<p>You are all missing the very little things: he is a boy and she is a girl. Use that to the advance. During the test leave your paper out and when he looks at it.. rat him out. tell your teacher in a smooth voice "I am sorry but i cant sit here, i am having trouble concentrating becuase he is copying off me". And BAM the kid will usally do bizarre. He will yell and scream. And if after that day he continues to bother you, threaten him (I will tell the principal"), it may sound childish but you are a girl and it should get through-in you are a boy just snuff him...</p>

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<p>Once again, I'll offer my corny solutions. (:</p>

<p>Maybe you should get together with the other unhappy kids and confront him about the whole issue? (I don't quite understand why your teacher helps him on tests in the first place. Or does your teacher sort of unwittingly give away crucial pieces of information as she explains a problem?) And then, if that doesn't work, go to the teacher as a group?</p>

<p>If you talk to the teacher, though, make sure you don't sound like you're accusing the teacher of being a bad teacher.</p>

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<p>I hope I didn't come off as arrogant or anything, I just feel that I work hard for the grades I get and when someone like this kid gets an A+ on a Physics test, has a higher grade because of it, and decides to erase and change answers on assignments and mark it as a perfect grade, it bothers me.</p>

<p>I don't know if any of you went through this or are currently going through this. That's why I wanted your opinions. I was reading over the posts and everyone's assuming that I'm some arrogant, selfish girl. (yes I'm a girl)</p>

<p>I do share answers with my friends and other people, but I don't see why someone who didn't do their work should recieve answers from me. If someone asked me what I got, I will tell them if they did the work. I just wanted to clarify that. :)</p>

<p>I guess I'm upset because I studied like crazy for that test. I stayed after school and for two hours for two days reviewed with my teacher. I do all of the homework and grade myself honestly. I don't mooch answers off of other people and I don't mooch answers off my teacher during a test. </p>

<p>My teacher does help people out during a test. She won't give us the answer straight out, but she will give us clues as to how to do it. But the clues are in depth. The problem is that a lot of people raise their hands to get help and she obviously can't help everyone out when there is a time limit on a test. So some people get more help from her than others. </p>

<p>And this kid that I have been talking about stayed after class during my teacher's free hour and got help from her because he didn't finish. I couldn't stay after class because I had another class to go to. I ended up finishing it during my lunch hour and she couldn't help me because she had to lecture her class on math.</p>

<p>A lot of people are unhappy with this situation, but no one is willing to talk about it and confront it. I don't understand why though because it's their grades.</p>

<p>I just wanted to clarify, and if anyone else has an opinion feel free to post it here. I just feel that all of that studying and pain was for nothing because this kid got a free ride. </p>

<p>I kind of feel like I'm under fire for what I posted, so if I have misunderstood anybody, let me know.....</p>

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<p>Yep, I'm sorry if you thought my little mini-rant was directed towards you. It wasn't. I know how frustrating it is to study for a test crazy hard and then flunk it anyways. I studied over 8 hours for my Calculus test yesterday and still flunked it today :(:(:(</p>

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<p>I didn't think you were at all being arrogant.</p>

<p>I'd be equally angry in your place because I know how that feels - studying my bum off for a test in a difficult class and then still getting a poor grade. (It's even worse in your situation.)</p>

<p>Anyway, I still think that you and a couple other people should confront him first. It seems like your yelling at him didn't do much except make him stop talking to you; he's still mooching answers off of other people. Maybe a whole group of people staring him down will have the desired effect. (:</p>

<p>Good luck. I really hope your problem is resolved soon.</p>