My roommmate is really messy and her mess has been slowly inching over to my side. Also she has come back to the room drunk and being veryloud on school nights. I dont sleep well to begin woth so i value my sleep. Also she for gets her room key all the time and i have to go let her in. Which takes me away from what im doing. I want to switch and the person i would switch with and her roommate are ok with switching. But i dont how to ask my roommate to switch rooms?
To clarify - are you going to leave the room and someone else will come in, or do you want her to leave the room? If it’s the latter, I don’t think you can ask her that. Moving is a huge hassle and she has no incentive to do it. If you have a problem, the onus is on you to move.
Assuming we’re talking about dorm life, it really does not matter - the answer is the same. You don’t ask the roommate to switch rooms.
Every college has a procedure to switch rooms. The Residential Life Office is responsible for that; you don’t do it on your own.
Are you in college now (over the summer)? And agreed you cannot ask your roommate to switch rooms. The typical progression is 1) talk to your roommate politely and see if you can work out a mutually agreeable arrangement 2) talk to your RA and see if he/she can help the situation; and 3) talk to ResLife and ask if YOU can switch rooms.
^ what @happy1 said. Talk to your roommate first, and maybe then she’ll realise that she’s been a bit of an annoying roommate. Otherwise talk to your RA about it and they will tell you about what would happen next (depending on school procedure)
It’s July! Are you really planning to leave your roommate scrambling at his point in the year? Over an issue that’s obviously been there for quite some time?
First, you can refuse to let your roommate in when she forgets her key. If she calls you, you can say that you’re in the middle of something and that she needs to contact the RA or whoever else is responsible for lockouts. If she is doing this all the time, then she may simply be relying on you to save her - but if you start showing her that she can’t always expect you to unlock the door, she may start remembering her key more often.
The other stuff you should talk to her about, as was mentioned.
Typically, Res Life doesn’t kick people out of their rooms. Usually the person with the grievance is the one who has to leave, with a few exceptions in special circumstances (for example, if she was threatening you or you were afraid for your safety - and even then, often the victim moves in those circumstances). So if you have found someone who is willing to switch and if your res life office allows that, you will likely be the one who has to move - not her.
First ask your RA “My roommates mess is starting to creep on to my side of the room…also she is very loud when she comes home late sometimes…can you give me advice on how to talk to her about this?”
If you want to switch then you need to start with the RA, and then talk to the housing office if that doesn’ t work.
Also tell your roommate to make sure to take her key as you won’t be letting her in anymore…she needs to call the RA.