<p>Please guys help. I want the confidence to walk up to a group of guys at lunch and ask to sit with them and converse with them. Im a girl btw. Dont say meet them in class bc really if i cant even do it at lunch what makes you think i suddenly could in class? so any tips would be a big help. im not even sure why im shy..maybe im afraid or embarassing myself or rejection idk really. so please please help i need to get over this and quick.</p>
<p>There is no easier way than to walk over, ask if you can sit with “them, him, her,” and then smile, say thanks and sit down and eat. It would be even easier if seating is limited, because you need a place to sit. Make some small talk about the meal and then see where it goes. Do not overthink it. It is easy, once you do it. Good luck.</p>
<p>Thank you…I know I’m overthinking it lol. So around noon and six to eat should be good cause those should be the most packed right?
Thanks for your help.</p>
<p>The more you do it, the easier it is. Bring something to read and just be casual …like it’s no big deal to sit there and work/read a bit, but then start talking as you are reading/eating. The reading could be something from class or even something on an ipad/phone you are looking at. When you are done, just get up and say thanks…see you around sometime and then just smile and leave. It’s really easy.</p>
<p>but how to you make friendships outta that?</p>
<p>You have to start somewhere and just having the courage to try something new will get you there. Friendships develop over time and you have an entire semester ahead of you to work on it. Google “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin and look for her 8 tips about making friends. I have used some of these myself. Her blog is just a wonderful place to get some upbeat advice and practical suggestions about life in general. You will make friends if you try. Best wishes to you.</p>