<p>This may sounds kinda silly but I found myself hard to make new friends and dont know what to talk to them.I prefer to stay in my comfort zone and keep quiet all the time,which I dont think it's cool.
So any wise advice on getting over this ?Any ways to make new friends?What do you guys usually talk at school?(I 'm an international student,and is about to enroll in public school in this Sept.)
Please feel free to reply,wanting to hear all responses!</p>
<p>Hmmmm…Now that I think about it, I have no idea what I talk about with my friends. I think it’s good to be natural. Since you’re an international student, I think you’ll be able to make a lot of friends because most kids in the US haven’t lived outside the country. If you can speak a different language, that’s great because most people think it’s cool to speak another language fluently!! What country are you from?</p>
<p>@Foodlover001
China ,but I’m not a nerdy asian haha:P
But the problem is,if i choose to be natural,I would always keep in silence…it‘s so awkward.I’m trying to find topics that I can chat</p>
<p>Hmmm…I guess for me, I just say random things. On the first day, you could ask what other kids did over the summer. Then, when some kids sound really interested in what they have to say, you should take that opportunity and start the conversation!! What grade are you going into? You can also join clubs ands stuff, and talk to people that way. Usually, the people in the same clubs as you will have a lot in common with you.</p>
<p>Really thank you for your response:)
I’m a rising sophomore,joining clubs sounds like a good idea.
How about starting conversations with asking some questions like their views of teachers or courses or just the things that I dont know.
Btw,is it awkward to shake hands with new friends when you first meet(too formal?)</p>
<p>Umm…I would say, don’t shake hands with people. Instead, just casually say hi or something like that. If you’re a girl, then you could say hi and do a casual wave. Yeah, talking about classes is good. On the first day, if you’re sitting next to someone and you have time to talk, ask them what classes they have. If you have classes in common, you could talk about that…usually once you start a conversation, it’s pretty easy to keep it going. I feel that shaking hands is a bit too formal. It’s not wrong, it’s just that if you want to introduce yourself, it would be better to say hi.</p>
<p>Staying positive will really hope you on your first day don’t be afraid to say “hi what’s your name” because in reality your going to have to see them every school day. Also if it seems like its not working give it time.</p>
<p>From what I know, most new people are checked out by different people to see whether or not you’re: cool, normal, nice. Then people will try to fit you into a category, so most people will talk to you just to say hi. You’ll make more friends in class by asking people around you about it and different things.</p>
<p>Yea, it’s good to get out your comfort zone. I would suggest to start slow…A simple smile, “hello” or “whats-up”/handshake, etc. to start out. And then when you are ready and want to meet new people, start engaging in the talks in your classroom, lunch, hallway or wherever…and then people will be like “Hey, I know that guy, he’s cool” </p>
<p>Eventually the more you get out the more you’ll find friends. And always remember this:
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting something different. So if you’re quiet all the time, don’t expect any new buddies. Haha
Praying the best for you XD</p>
<p>@Evayey You could be my mirror! I’m Chinese, and I’ve been struggling with making friends for the past two years. One thing that I found out is to not care about what other people think of you and don’t be afraid to show your personality. I just realized how relaxed I am at home, but in public, I’m always trying to please someone. You’ll also make friends in your classes, especially if you work with them. The person who sat next to me in math has now become a really good friend of mine. Joining clubs also helps. I joined marching band and now I have a ton of friends.</p>
<p>Joining a club or sport is usually the best way because you all have a common interest. </p>
<p>Almost all of my friends are on the same sport team as me.</p>
<p>^This is a great way to meet new friends. Do a community service club and you’ll get to hang out with your friends at events.</p>
<p>Another idea is mingling. Just ask questions such as interests etc… Explore, don’t be afraid to hang around the different cliques for a while until you find one that you like and can be social in. You should join different groups every now and then to talk to others and meet new people, but I suggest getting to be part of one that will last beyond high school. One that you can go back to with reunions and one that you’ll spend time with outside of school.</p>
<p>Don’t ever blink. Not once. People like that.</p>
<p>Yeah! I think you should definitely say hi, and try to find things in common with others.</p>