<p>So pretty much all my ED/EA friends got into their school choices, most of which are Ivies. I am genuinely happy and proud of them as every one of them completely deserved it--they have all worked really hard the past couple of months.</p>
<p>I was deferred from a dream school and I'm still dealing with that disappointment now...I know it sounds insecure and petty but I can't help feeling sad when all my friends are discussing their acceptances and how much fun they'll have at college when I know I still have many apps to complete. I'm not angry or anything and I don't think they should stop talking about their own excitement just because I'm not sharing it with them...just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with it?</p>
<p>Just say good job and get the conversation onto something else</p>
<p>There's a person I know who I used to be good friends with until she saw me as "competition" to get into her dream school, ever since then I have been the 'enemy' and she has ignored me. To any others in this situation, just take the high road and be friendly.</p>
<p>^Thanks, JoshuaGuit...I think you may have misunderstood my question though. I, by no means, have been acting resentful towards my friends and I've been putting on a brave face because I hate people feeling sorry for me. I'm not questioning whether I should take the high road or not.</p>
<p>It's more of an internal thing, I guess...when they talk about college stuff, I act just as excited as they are but I always end up feeling a little sad on the inside. </p>
<p>Oh no, I did understand your question... I just kind of posted from another perspective, I realize you did not mean that you were being rude towards those that got accepted.</p>
<p>I can not exactly relate to your situation, but I CAN imagine how you must feel... for that I'm really sorry about what you're going through. I think it is only natural to feel the way you are, but just keep your head up and thinking positively. You'll find some place that may be an unknown but better fit for yourself!</p>
<p>I would keep studying as hard as you already are, get involved in more things (not for your application list but rather to keep you busy and having fun!!). You'll get there eventually</p>
<p>Just congragulate and then slowly change the subject.</p>
<p>The same thing happened with a friend of mine, the top three students in my school, one got into yale another stanford and she, my friend, got deferred. In the end she ended up going to Harvard so...</p>
<p>Thanks for your advice--and JoshuaGuit, sorry (haha we're both exchanging so many sorry's), I definitely understand what you were talking about now. :)</p>
<p>I'm surprised that most of your friends got in ED...the majority of ED applicants we know did not get in this fall.
I think the most useful approach is to do a great job on your RD apps. I know many, many stories like Sandra33162's...this will work out in the end, just a few months from now.</p>
<p>i think that it's alright to feel the way you do...anyone would be upset if THEY didn't get into their dream school, while it feels like EVERYONE else (your friends) did.....sometimes, I feel like I'm "dumb" compared to some of my friends because they seem super smart (with their perfect/near perfect scores on sections of the SAT and such)....it can feel aggravating at times, but we eventually move on with topics (seeing how it gets old)...</p>
<p>i got rejected when all my friends got in, so i know how it feels.
Just congratulate them and move on. You'll hear back from the rest of your schools in the spring, and then you'll have plenty to talk about on the college front with these friends.
Good luck with the rest of your applications.</p>
<p>Here's what I told my friend who was deferred:</p>
<p>It's NOT the end of the world. Wherever you end up with, you will be successful and happy. Why? Because you are that kind of person. The school might change, but YOU will be still be you. </p>
<p>The school does not the experience make. You do. :) I hope you get into your dream school.</p>