I’ve been in college for almost 2 months and I still don’t have many friends. The first month was absolutely miserable for me but now I started to know a few people. I actually met 2 people the past few weeks who I have a lot in common with but the problem is we don’t hang out with each other enough. We live on different sections of this really big freshman residence hall and don’t really bump randomly into each other much. Some of them I just met and the very limited of interactions we’ve had we’ve gotten along well and have had long enough conversations. I’m going to join like 3 more clubs and leave 1-2 soon too but in the mean time what should I do?
You need to reach out to them… “Hey are you thinking of going to the homecoming tailgate?”
@bopper’s link is a great one, as is @Lindagaf’s on the same topic.
I’m a big fan of study buddies / study groups. They can be one-off (study for the upcoming test) or ongoing. They are simple and informal ways to spend time with somebody where (like clubs) the focus isn’t on you. You may find that you end up with several pods of friends- from a club, from your hall, from a class. Keep a particular eye out on people who are in more than one class with you and/or people in your major. People within a major tend to get closer over the years- you obviously share an interest and can support each other through the ups and downs of going through your major. These pods might- but might not- coalesce over time into one larger group.