I have a couple of male friends but NO female friends. It’s weird cuz usually I get along with girls better than I do guys. Whenever there’s a dance or something I feel weird cuz I have no female friends and I’m surrounded by dudes. I feel like the girls I approach think I’m hitting on them but I’m not.
I’m a kinda awkward person and that’s how I made friends in HS. People would think my awkwardness was funny and then I’d get to know them and we’d become friends. But I feel like that doesn’t work here. I have to be social AF and do all this stuff that isn’t me. I really hope I can start making friends so I have a diverse group of people to hang out with. Not sure if it’s because my college is cliquey or I just need to put more effort.
Talk to people in your dorm. Offer food. See if people on your floor (guys and girls) want to watch a popular TV show in the lounge. Go to any dorm events.
Join an intramural team
Join a club…maybe a service club where you can work with people.
Form a study group…either people in your class or anyone taking Calc 101 in your dorm.
Sit with people from your dorm in the dining hall
See if anyone wants to go to the football game/concert/whatever in your dorm.
So make friends by doing things with a variety of people, and then see who “sticks”. Yes you have to put out more effort…but it will pay off.
Back in the day, I was friends with an “awkward” guy …I knew him because he lived in my dorm, was in the same major and some of the same classes…sometimes we would do homework together.
One of my kids had a friend who was in a heavily male major at our state flagship. Like, 95% male. She decided to join a sorority to make more women friends. She found one that was a good fit for her.
I will add one idea to the great list from @bopper: If you are religious (or at least open to attending), maybe you’d want to try a religious service. My D goes to Mass sometimes with a group which is mostly girls but includes one or two guys. Hopefully the setting would let you indicate that you are friendly without it looking like you are hitting on anyone.
Ha! No time, even if she wanted to! She does have friends at Scripps, though. A couple of high school friends, and she has met some of their friends. OP, meeting people through the friends you to make is another tactic. That is actually how I made lots of my college friends.
Just let the time fly. Go on doing what you do best. Once people takes notice of that, you might realize that you’ve actually cultivated a group of diverse people around you already.