I’m currently a freshman and its going pretty well so far, but I really want to branch out more next year. A lot of the social life seems to be from knowing people through clubs/sports, but club sports are too competitive for my level, and I tried a few clubs that didn’t really stick this year. A lot of people I know here have a sibling or others from their high school here that they know, but I came in knowing nobody. Most of my close friends are from my dorm, but I want to get out there more. I was wondering how you guys made good friends, especially through the years.
Well for me it wasn’t like I had dozens of friends and endless social engagements. Really the best way is to find a club or two that seem like it was really interesting. It’s not as though I came out of freshman year with secret to life. But hang in there.
Just keep being a good person. Also I find that doing group exercise like yoga or perhaps Zumba has a social aspect to it that makes me feel connected. Also if you happen to have an interest in anything socially constructive /political volunteer for I.e habitat for humanity helping to build a house or a local candidate etc
Sometimes it’s about quality over quantity. I’d rather have a few really good friends than lots of acquaintances. Still am very tight with 3 or 4 hall mates from college 33 yrs later. It’s not a contest. That said, putting yourself out there and joining some other groups via clubs will help. Try things that you normally wouldn’t do. Maybe you’ll like them. Is there an outdoor club. Great opportunity to go hiking and exploring while getting to know other kids.