<p>This is a little embarrassing for me to post but I’m wondering what the options are for a junior who wants to make new friends. I’ve been sticking with a small group of friends that I met my freshman year, but we’re just not really clicking as much as we used to. I feel like the root of the issue that they don’t seem very open to new ways of thinking, or that they don’t realize that some of the things they say about lower-income populations really do insult me. Our different lifestyles also seem to limit our common interests (ex: They always talk about Europe, while I’ve never really been able to travel, which is fine but I get weird looks for it.)</p>
<p>I guess it doesn’t help that I’m a little shy at first when I meet people. I’m also not really into the party/drinking scene, but rather I’m the type that actually wants to get off campus every other weekend or so (something my current friends aren’t very keen on doing). I was thinking about going to a few club meetings this week, but I’m wondering if going alone would be awkward, especially since a lot of people seem to know each other already and sometimes appear clique-y. I just don’t know.</p>
<p>Definitely join some clubs or student organizations. Volunteer for the student program that calls acceptees at home (to encourage them to attend/answer questions about BC) or gives them tours for a day.</p>
<p>Dear nervouslee : Your question is a throwback to your first days on campus as a freshman with the big difference being that you know more about the campus now - more specifically, you know what you DON’T like about your current groups of friends. Let me throw out just a few ideas that might resonate with you :</p>
<p>[1] See if you can do some volunteer “TA” style work in your major department as that might help you meet an entirely new group of students.</p>
<p>[2] If you like any particular sport, sign up with an intramural team. Even if you do not like a particular sport, what about being part of a pick up game at the Plex just to give it a try? Everyone can have some laughs with volleyball.</p>
<p>[3] How do you feel about working in admissions to help greet new students coming to campus?</p>
<p>[4] If you enjoy writing, how about checking out one of the Boston College publications? Join the staff and be part of that group. How about working on the yearbook as you head into senior year?</p>
<p>[5] Attend some of the music or theatre events on campus - you might find some new faces there with a common interest.</p>
<p>As a junior, you already know that the more involved you are on campus, the bigger your circle of friends will grow. Your set of “interesting conversation partners” to quote Fr. Michael Hymes will grow organically. Good luck and get involved!</p>
<p>Nervouslee, I definitely feel where you’re coming from. It’s hard to realize some of your friends from freshmen year aren’t people that align with your interests/lifestyle. I’ve found joining clubs/sports groups at BC has allowed me to meet a ton of new people, especially if you find an activity that you really like. </p>
<p>If you’re really into writing, why not check out the Heights? They’re always willing to take people in.</p>