<p>Yes guys, it's one of "those" threads, avert your eyes now or die xD. Just kidding.
/rant
So school's been in session for a month now, and in the first week, I met this foreign exchange student. We really hit it off; we have a lot in common, including ancestry.
Anyway, we've been talking a lot, I mean, texting, Facebooking, hanging out after school, hanging out during lunch...if it wasn't made obvious already, we both really like each other. Though we decided it's for the best that we don't start dating, since she'll have to leave in July, and that would make it hard on both of us.
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<p>As a said above, we talk, like A LOT. We have both said that talking to one another is like a drug, and that's actually scaring me. Because I'm in my junior year of high school (the most important for colleges some might say), and I want to make sure my grades are sharp (2 AP's, Pre-Calc, Audition (Symphonic) Choir, and President of French Club).
Well I've sort of been putting off stuff for her (not too much though, I was able to get it done in time with okay grades), but I'm worried that if this trend continues, especially as the year advances and gets harder, I'll start to fail school, and lose my 3.86 GPA.</p>
<p>So how can I make sure this doesn't happen?
Btw, thanks for reading this if you did, cookie for you :)</p>
<p>Just FORGET that she’s not here to stay and have a relationship with her! Who cares that you only have 9 more months with her. That’s actually a long time and you shouldn’t hold off a relationship for that reason. You must not really like her that much if you’re considering that. </p>
<p>You guys might not even last that long anyways. Just have fun while she’s here.</p>
<p>@Puggly, no we decided to not have a relationship because we like each other a lot, and don’t want to see each other really hurt when she has to leave. I know it might sound odd, but it’s for the best.</p>
<p>Yeah. Yeah. It might not be official… but you’re going to get hurt.</p>
<p>Love, attraction, feelings, etc. They don’t need an official status to count.</p>
<p>I’m serious. The pain will be the same when she leaves whether you’re going out or not. (Which btw, it sounds like you are.)</p>
<p>But. You have to make the decision. What’s important to you? Your priorities need to be realigned. Is this girl more or less important than your school work? Have you talked to her about it? I bet if you talked to her about it, she’d understand… like you two could come up with an understanding that neither of you talk to each other from like 8-9 or if she sees you on facebook, she’ll encourage you to get off. Use this relationship (or lack there of) to your advantage.</p>
<p>^^ I agree with AUGirl. You are gonna get hurt either way. </p>
<p>I guess if you’re okay with knowing how things could have been (because I think it will eventually hit you down the road), it might be feasible especially since you guys seem adamant about keeping things the way they are. My gut reaction tells me you guys are gonna fall for each other even more, so just be ~weary of that. But you seem to doing okay grade-wise as you indicated, so I really don’t know how much of a problem it will be for you. Make a conscious effort to kinda “limit” your interaction with her (when necessary) even if that means putting yourself in situation where you can’t be with her. Or just be upfront with her in a polite way.</p>
<p>(Personally, sometimes I think it is easier to be in a relationship in high school because you’re not dealing with all these “what ifs” or hopelessly romanticizing and what not all the time. That’s my two cents worth.)</p>
<p>On another note:</p>
<p>*I don’t know if this is relevant at all. My boyfriend and I faced (are still facing) a similar situation. Before we started going out, he was/is battling with cancer and we were sort of crazy about each other, but it was difficult for the both us to figure what we wanted for each other. </p>
<p>I was somewhat okay in being relationship with him, even though there was a scary possibility of losing him, but I really enjoyed being with him that much. He, on the other hand, intentionally pushed me away for while because if something did happen to him, he didn’t want me to get hurt. That whole phase went on for a pretty long time.I admit he probably did take it to an extreme than what you guys are planning doing, but if feelings are there, sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and go for it.</p>
<p>Long story short: We took the chance and we never regretted it. I have my insane moments where I’m like “if I lose him, I have no idea what I’m going to do.” But we’re just focusing on making every moment count.</p>
<p>But really, just keep on trucking and eventually it will work out. This sort of thing you don’t really need to pay much attention to, just go with the flow. The only reason my grades dived is because of hard classes, never because of anything else.</p>
<p>Bang her as many times as you can until she leaves…then visit her and bang her more over the summer. If you fall in love, just start poking tiny holes in the end of the condoms and I assure you that she’ll be with you for at least 18 years and 9 months :)</p>