<p>Well, I've kind of held off on hs "relationships" because I didn't want it to affect my academics. As a result, I don't know much about them. :o </p>
<p>There's a girl at school I really, really like. However, as corny as this sounds, I'm not sure she's romantically interested in me. We're really good friends, though, and I don't want to mess that up. Help!!!</p>
<p>aww thats so cute</p>
<p>You can take someone out as it were and NOT make it a big romantic thing 'ya know.</p>
<p>Could you please explain that? Not being rude, but I'm not sure I understand. :confused:</p>
<p>What Hazmat is saying that just hang out but don't make it like a romantic date? x_X; =] Aaawww I hope she likes you IBclass06. -.-; Gee I don't have a boyfriend yet. Ha ha I like being single. xD It's fun but lonely! Anyhoo goodluck!</p>
<p>Correct....set up the scene but give her the control, the lead. If she acts romantic or she kisses your first........WIN/WIN if you push it you could be in a LOSE/LOSE. </p>
<p>Ask her to do things....treat her personally in the same way you might treat a date/love interest and let this girlie tell you how she sees it. Who knows after a few dates as friends she may feel a bit more romantic herself.</p>
<p>Talk to her more. Ask to hang out with her more.</p>
<p>See if she ever looks into your eyes and smiles without a particular reason or you catch her looking at you during class. That's what I do when I like somebody. I'm a stupid giggly school girl.</p>
<p>Thanks. So it's ok to ask her to Homecoming, etc.?</p>
<p>DONT TREAT HER LIKE YOU WOULD A G/F. I liked my friend b4 and that is the biggest mistake you can make it just makes things awkward and pushes her away. I wanted to ask a friend out but she knew all of the things that i had done to other girls (i have kind of a player rep) and she never be my g/f. What ended up happening was that we had a g/f type relationship with all the bad parts (arguing and making me do stuff) but very little of the good things (you know what i mean and if u dont then u dont need a g/f). The last thing you need to worry about is that having a g/f will ruin academics. In my experience it helped my grades b/c it kept me from doin idiotic stuff with my idiotic but very fun guy friends.</p>
<p>I agree with everyone else--just "hang out" together & ask her opinion about things & really listen, like a good friend. Don't put her on a pedestal or act romantic, but do fun things together. Making a meal together on a weekend or baking or flying a kite or going on a bike ride or going bowling. Sure, you could ask her to Homecoming, but don't stress about that either. Keep things light & fun until & unless she shows that she's interested in more. In my life, the best romantic relationships have always started with the best solid friendships.</p>
<p>Have fun!</p>
<p>Thanks. That was very helpful. :)</p>
<p>My last crush (two weeks ago, lol) is now one of my best friends.</p>
<p>Hm, that seems to happen a lot with me.</p>
<p>Yeah like someone said, don't treat her like as if she's ur gf</p>
<p>My former guy bestfriend liked me alot and I kinda didn't feel the same.. He was like all over me and protecting me and being the 'bf' at a party while I was a bit 'off' and it was a bit nice but it felt weird and then like later, he acted as if I was his gf (putting his arms around me, cuddling me, kissing me on my forehead, little jokey 'dates' :s) and it got a bit too weird . And at the end, I just said "no I'm sorry i dont feel the same way" and he became really distant.. really distant.. didn't even talk to me for 2 weeks even though we sat together (as a group) at lunch and stuff. We are not best frineds like before anymore.. it's just really awkward now.</p>
<p>I really hope that doesnt happen to you.</p>
<p>Yea that is almost exactly what happened with me except i just got mad b/c she wouldnt go out with me and just stopped talking 2 her... (immature i know)</p>
<p>wellllll it's being selfish you know..."reject me? fine, no more mr nice guy!"</p>
<p>:D</p>
<p>yea... exactly!!!! Lol that is so wrong</p>
<p>Thanks for the anecdote, NoFX...I won't try that. :)</p>
<p>THE REAL ANSWER TO YOUR DILLEMA</p>
<p>Become a PIMP. Act as if you don't care she exists. Maybe I am exagerating here, but what I'm really trying to say is DO NOT BE NICE TO HER. Don't be a toady or sycophant in her presence. You'd just become another boring victim for her to reject. Act as if you're desireable and make other girls like you too so that she'll develop a liking for you. Being nice to her is what every guy would do. The secret is to do the opposite if you really know how to beat the system. Treat girls like dirt and you present yourself as more desireable to them. I don't mean to be cold hearted but these are the true secrets of getting girls to like you.</p>
<p><em>turns on ultra anti-flaming shield 2005</em></p>
<p><em>points anti-anti-flaming shield 2005 bazooka at YourMaster's anti-flaming shield 2005 and fires... BOOM!</em></p>
<p>Regardless, I thought that was kinda funny YourMaster =)</p>
<p>you are welcome IBclass lol
banedon, haha i think that was exactly what my friend was doing.. except I didn't think of that at the time.. I thought he was just sad and didn't want to talk to me :( He probably was really angry lol bcause,i guess in a way, I was leading him on.. Like I didn't reject his little kisses and hugs or anything..</p>
<p>grrrrr guys are so strange</p>