<p>I am sorry for posting yet another thread over the course of the last two weeks, but I really need this question answered. </p>
<p>In the college admissions process I did fall in love with most of the schools I applied to. I have made my mind about which one I will be going to and have already committed. However, I just can't find the power to click on the decline button om some the offers I have.</p>
<p>The UK was easy - you just click withdraw application and that's all. Schools there are not nearly as interested in you as a person, they just care about your academics.</p>
<p>The US, however - super difficult. All of the schools I was accepted to keep calling me on the phone...and I know that had I not been accepted to my top choice, I would have gladly gone to each and every one of them. All these calls, letters, emails, invitations just make me feel bad as a person because I will not justify the confidence in my candidacy warranted through my admission to these schools.</p>
<p>I have put up a little, individual email for every school explaining that I do love the school, yet I cannot attend because I will follow my dream and go to my top choice (where I will fit best as well). But still...that doesn't make me feel any better.</p>
<p>Is this feeling bad normal and what should I do when I turn schools down?
Also, should I mention the name of the school I am going to in the email apologizing for my declining their offer, or should I explain that I will not be attending without mentioning any names?</p>
<p>Thank you so much for your advice again! :)</p>
<p>No, this is not a typical reaction, but I think most people do feel a little twinge when they turn down an offer–after investing so much effort into the college application process, it can be a bit hard to “break up”. But you need to understand that these schools aren’t interested in a long story about why you are turning them down. They don’t care about your rationales or your dreams. They don’t expect or need an apology. They aren’t calling to beg you to come, and their hearts won’t be broken when you decline. You are one of hundreds of applicants who will be declining their offers–they just need to know your answer so they can determine their yields and whether they will need to turn to their waitlists. You’re turning this into a big emotional drama when it’s just business. Your response will not be pored over regretfully by the admissions committee–it will be processed by a clerk who will enter you into the “decline” column in the computer. </p>
<p>Sometimes schools do want to know where you are attending, and they will provide an option to notify them in a postcard to be returned with your response to their offer of admission. If they don’t provide that option, they don’t care. If you don’t have a postcard to return, just send a simple email–thank you for the offer of admission, but I have decided to attend another school. Period. Then go buy the sweatshirt for your dream school and don’t look back!</p>
<p>Just say no thank you in the most efficient way you can. Their feeling wont be hurt. The people calling would rather you say sorry but I won’t be attending then wasting more time </p>
<p>All you have to say is sorry I won’t be attending. If they gave you a card to retrun, just fill it out. My daughter couldn’t find a card, link, to decline a school, so she just faxed a quick note.</p>
<p>Its not that hard. And don’t make it more emotional th you need to. The schools dont</p>
<p>Also try to do it as soon as possible since you’ve already confirmed that you’re going to another school (congrats by the way on getting into your top!) because all the kids on the waitlist are waiting for those precious spots to open up from other kids who have already gotten into where they really want to gp</p>