<p>I think I’d feel this way: It could be worse and it could be better. </p>
<p>Then I’d recall my mom’s sage advice: “Don’t look for someone who has no problems. Look for someone with whom you can work together to solve problems. Because…there will always be problems.”</p>
<p>And yes, she actually said “with whom.”</p>
<p>^^^^ No wonder you married who you did, p3t!</p>
<p>Yah, he’s napping upstairs right now. It’s a problem-solving strategy that works well in a blizzard. :p</p>
<p>That sounds like some advice I was given…marry someone with faults that you can tolerate. LOL</p>
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<p>What excellent advice!</p>
<p>Life throws us curveballs. Person A may already have 50K in loans, but Person B may become disabled tomorrow…same thing is true of siblings, parents, children.</p>
<p>I’m also impressed by her grammar. :)</p>
<p>I agree with you mother’s wise advice, payingthreetuitions. I helped pay off my husband’s student loans when we married. He went on to become quite successful and my “investment” was a great one. It’s very short-sighted to focus on the student loans; motivation, character, intelligence, loyalty are things I would care about much more in a potential mate for my children.</p>
<p>Nicely put in the last several posts!</p>
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IMO this is one of the wisest posts on CC! If we ever do a book of CC Wisdom 
this post needs to be included!
I certainly intend to quote it to my kids.</p>
<p>p3t, amen and amen! (and my H would agree with yours on the sleeping part, too)</p>
<p>When we got married, the loans became OUR responsibility, though our UG amounts were almost identical. When H wanted to head to professional school, it was OUR decision. (We’d already been married three years at that point.) We spent a year and a half walking around Valley Forge in the evening discussing the ramifications, expense, career implications, etc. The day DH started law school, he gave me a plaque acknowledging my role in making this dream come true. </p>
<p>It was a wonderful, wonderful time.</p>
<p>I remember those same feelings, Countingdown. These are some of the wonderful experiences that we also shared during our 27 year marriage. My husband is still grateful for my faith in him and that we always worked together to overcome obstacles.</p>
<p>researchmaven, CountingDown, and all the lucky ones,</p>
<p>Please share with us about how you together made the decision with your husband/boy friend? What characters and abilities did your husbands have for you to be able to trust him with this decision? This is what all the youngsters need to learn.</p>
<p>I can give plenty of opposite examples. Please refer to one of them listed below. </p>
<p>[the-555000-student-loan-burden:</a> Personal Finance News from Yahoo! Finance](<a href=“http://finance.yahoo.com/college-education/article/108846/the-555000-student-loan-burden?mod=edu-continuing_education]the-555000-student-loan-burden:”>http://finance.yahoo.com/college-education/article/108846/the-555000-student-loan-burden?mod=edu-continuing_education)</p>
<p>Thanks</p>
<p>“Marry someone whose faults amuse you.” —TheMom</p>
<p>^^^ That is hilarious–TheDad… :p</p>
<p>One of the considerations really should be
"do I want to take on this debt…and will my future career/choice of industry help me pay off this school debt in a reasonable amount of time? </p>
<p>I would be pretty uncomfortable to take on tons of debt in trade for a albeit very worthy career-but one that won’t pay the huge debtload.
…Sort of like buying our first house 25 yrs ago–the bank wanted to see only a certain percentage of our annual joint income pinned to the mortgage payment.</p>
<p>When I went to grad school–it was a jont decision–and like our mortgage payment, the tuition came from our joint funds. Thankfully we married without undergrad debt.</p>
<p>My wife paid off my student loan and car loan
with the money I saved in couple years after graduation
and I was poor since then.</p>
<p>Ah, but faults that amuse in a date may not be amusing in a spouse! One of my former co-workers said of her estranged spouse (now her ex), he was a great BF but lousy spouse & looking to be a worse dad.</p>
<p>HIMom, the number of women who have called tech support about the problems upgrading from BF 3.0 to Husband 1.0 is legendary.</p>
<p>LOL–I think the same goes with the men and their upgrades from GF 3.0 & Wife 1.0! A sense of humor, lots of patience and selective deafness and blindness are very valuable traits!</p>