<p>Hi,</p>
<p>My T is a very sensitive girl, who throughout HS has had social problems. Partly because she doesn't drink or do drugs - i know this because she is always home! She is friendly with mostly juniors and now that she is getting ready (if the acceptances ever come) to choose a college and leave her group she is starting to become depressed and very sensitive. She turns 18 in the spring and is totally freaking out.</p>
<p>Anyone else's teen getting nuts?
Mbe</p>
<p>Everyone who is still waiting is going nuts, be they sensitive or thick-skinned. Parents, too! I am glad that my son has drama hell week now - that and the musical will keep him too busy to think until next week, and then it will only be two more week. </p>
<p>Can you do some family get away's on the weekends? Or maybe plan for a spring break trip? Something fun and not college, perhaps. Its just plan hard right now - but its only a few weeks now - less than a month. I'm looking outside my window at a snowstorm, but spring (and happy letters) are on the way.</p>
<p>Wish I could get away from the college stuff, but I have a junior also. So we are in the thick of SAT's, as I right, and trying to do all that junior stress stuff. The fun never stops.</p>
<p>I've decided to go jogging every day until April 1st - no matter how much snow there may be and even if I only have time to go down the street and back. Somehow, it has helped - just a teensy bit- to give me another goal. DS has been too. Just came back looking like a snowman.</p>
<p>mbe I commiserate. I've had two in a row also, only I'm on the second one now. It has truly seemed endless.</p>
<p>waiting for colleges and the college board -woot, woot, too much fun. Jogging or working out does help - just don't get lost in the snow!</p>
<p>Mbe, I completely sympathize.</p>
<p>My D' s dilemma was related-- all her friends were seniors when she was a junior. She spent the fall of senior year bored, home, depressed. (She even had qualms about leaving the area for college-- her misguided notion was needing to be near home so she'd be able to re-connect with these older friends on <em>their</em> visits home!) It was really a loss for her. </p>
<p>What happened? First, she realized that not only did she lose three good friends, but she lost one key "motor" friend who was always the one to create plans, rally people, call people. My D had to learn how to reconnect with the friends in her class and how to be the "motor" of her own social life.</p>
<p>Second, when Xmas rolled around and all the kids came home for vacation, she saw that they were indeed moving on in life-- friends and boyfriends she did not know, new priorities, etc. She saw that the changes were inevitable, and what's more, exciting. She realized that staying in place would not prevent her life changing.</p>
<p>Remember your D will be in a school full of people who have left all their friends too (whether seniors or juniors.) Remind her of that; everyone will be in the same boat. At least on your D's Xmas vacation, her old gang will be ready & waiting for her. ;)</p>
<p>"...throughout HS has had social problems. Partly because she doesn't drink or do drugs..."</p>
<p>Hello? That is weird if the school has no social scene otherwise.</p>
<p>Kids at dd's school will get expelled for drinking or doing drugs. The social scene revolves around the stars of the school, at least academically and leadership-wise. Otherwise you are just expelled. Don't know if I like that, but that's what you sign up for.</p>
<p>Sounds like your chick needs to leave the nest and you need to cut the apron strings. Assure her she will find herself and 'her people' when she goes to college. It is such a good and safe place to explore options. She won't be a super-young freshman either and that is lucky for her.</p>
<p>It's pretty easy to not get caught drinking or doing drugs, you know.</p>
<p>MBE, I think my daughter is going through the same anxiety but is not able to be specific as to what is bothering her. Often the "nerdy" academically high achieving kids don't do as well in High School socially. But in college there are more people like her, and most of the other kids are catching up in maturity. She will do much better socially in college.</p>