<p>I'm a freshman at a 4 year university, and I absolutely have hated my school. I have made no friends despite my efforts, hate the area that my school is in, and the school is way too big. I want to transfer to an art school that i have wanted to go to since i was 5. I made a very dumb mistake in choosing this school, simply because i wanted to have a "normal college experience" and not be at an art school. While it's great for me that i have realized i truly want to be at the other school...my complete hatred of life for the past 3 months at this school, as well as having to miss 2 weeks of classes because boyfriend took me to italy (Yes that was bad of me to skip for 2 weeks, but could you pass up a once in a lifetime trip to italy???) has really bombed my grade. I don't know exactly how bad it is, but i'm 90% sure that i'm only passing one class out of the four i took. The sad part is i don't even go out of have a social life as an excuse! I just hate being here so much that i have absolutely no motivation to do my work. My question is...what do i do now? I am transferring to a community college that i could commute to from home for the spring semester, and going to reapply to the art school i was accepted to for Fall 2014 semester. Is there any chance i will even get reaccepted? Once the college sees how i perform when i'm actually in college, how will they even want me to attend their college? I won't have a chance to get my grades back to how they should be (i was a 90/95 student in high school) before i can apply.. I mean, i could wait until next year to apply and try to transfer into the art school in the spring, but i really do not want to sit around at home by myself for the next year. Thoughts? Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading and if you have any insight at all please help! </p>
<p>You need to go see your advisor. Put a plan together to finish the semester with as many courses as possible. My d ended up dropping two courses one semester to put everything she could into the remaining ones. She went to the instructors to see what she needed to do to get a certain grade (for her, it was a B). I think she actually did that with all of her profs before deciding which classes to drop. If you’re past your school’s withdrawal deadline, then you will have to find other solutions. Maybe you can still talk to the instructors and do what it takes to finish at least a class or two as well as you can at this point.</p>
<p>I do have to say that the trip to Italy was a really bad move. I don’t even think the “once in a lifetime” excuse really cuts it. Sorry. I’m not sure what your financial situation is with school and debt, etc. If it’s not an issue than your main concern is the way this semester looks for future applications. Are you independent or relying on your parents financially? I think you need to be honest with them if you haven’t already about how things are going for you. </p>
<p>Sometimes it takes going through something like this to realize what you really want to do. Also -people make mistakes. What matters now is what are you going to do to make the best of this? I would recommend a contrite attitude which includes ditching the “I hate” lines from your story. </p>
<p>It isn’t like Italy is on a different planet - flights leave for Italy everyday; it’s a very common tourist attraction. I’m a total Roman history/civilization geek and my dream for most of my life has been to visit the the Roman Forum and the Palatine Hill, but I still wouldn’t skip two weeks of classes to do it, jeopardizing my grades, grant money, and grad school prospects… Once in a lifetime is a bit of stretch. Italy is a hub for study abroad - you could’ve spent a semester in Italy; that would’ve been more unique. </p>
<p>But that aside; you need to take a good look at your situation and see what you can do as of right this moment that will allow you to finish the semester as strong as possible. If your situation is particularly abysmal, you might want to consider withdrawing from all, if not most, of your courses. You need to consider your priorities in life and where you want to be in 10 years, what paths you will need to take to get you there. You need to consider your finances and how this may or may not have disrupted them. </p>