<p>I am a 15.5 year old sophomore, 16 at the end of the year. I am very involved in the youth group at church and our youth band, too. The drummer of our band is a 13.5 year old eighth grader. I don't want to like him, but I do, very much. We flirt a lot and I've been been told more than once that he likes me too. My problems are 1) the idea of(right now) the major age difference(I know it won't matter much later, but it does now) and 2) maturity level- most of the time he's pretty mature but every once in a while I have my doubts. I have liked him for about 8 mos. now and we've known each other for 1.5 years. What are your thoughts on me- a female sophomore- dating a male eighth grader?</p>
<p>EWWWWWWW he’s so young</p>
<p>LOL, I’m just kidding. =D</p>
<p>You can’t choose who you love. The age difference doesn’t really matter at all; he’ll be in high school soon. Go for it.</p>
<p>Feel glad that you aren’t being tortured by a former teacher crush and an age gap of 21 years.</p>
<p>(Sorry if this wasn’t an intelligent answer).</p>
<p>That 8th grader pulls</p>
<p>Aww hahaha. Are you a rising sophomore and he is a rising 8th grader? I can already tell you, a lot of people are going to talk. And even more so since you are the older female (ugh society’s double standards). Honestly, I hear a lot of cougar comments for hanging out with younger guys (all in high school still though) even though I don’t like you. If that will bother you, I’d say… it might not be worth it. But if you guys like each other, I don’t see why you can’t be with each other! You can wait until he comes up to high school if the middle school/high school difference matters to you.</p>
<p>Good luck! :)</p>
<p>Freshman-junior is not too bad. Freshman-senior kind of makes you look desperate (though I know this is not the case). If you care at all about labels (which you shouldn’t according to society, though society is the one that labels people in the first place) just be wary about the unorthodox nature of your relationship. Something similar happened in our high school; personally, I didn’t know them and I thus didn’t care. I can’t say the same for a couple of my friends, however… Though they are interested in many things that don’t affect them, so yeah.</p>
<p>I was a freshman and dated a junior girl. There would be the occasional joke about it, but nothing bad ever came out of it. </p>
<p>Don’t date an eighth grader! Love yourself!!! I wouldn’t even date my eighth grade self <em>cringes</em> </p>
<p>I like how exact you try to be with these numbers. </p>
<p>Age don’t really matter, if you like him and he like you, just go for it. Guys do this all the time so it should work for a lady.</p>
<p>Something tells me:</p>
<p>“Time to nut up or shut up.”</p>
<p>you’ll do what you want to do anyway. so our opinions don’t really matter. </p>
<p>You worry too much.</p>
<p>You’re fine. One thing I learned (unfortunately) near the high school is what your friends or anyone else thinks does not matter. Seriously. Your true friends will stay with you and aside from occasional teasing, nothing will come out of it. During high school I really, really like liked this one girl. However, whenever I mentioned her to anyone else people would ask “that hippie girl?” or simply “oh.” At first, I was kind of bothered by it, but then I realized I didn’t care what anyone else thought and went ahead with it anyway. The people who made those comments either a) were acquaintances that I realized I could care less about or b) people that didn’t know her well enough to make such statements. When in a relationship, just worry about you and that person, not what anyone else thinks, you’ll be better off and more stress free that way. I eventually got the courage to ask the girl I mentioned to prom and although I don’t know what the future holds, we’ve been doing well since then. </p>
<p>My only regret is not getting to know her until the end of my senior year, but I guess it made me realize that I probably won’t be seeing half these people again and that you should do what makes you happy</p>
<p>If only I had your courage @shawnspencer
You did good.</p>
<p>@Godgirl If you two really like each other then it shouldn’t be anyone’s business. The only doubt I have about your relationship is that it could be hard with different schools. If you two can both wait a year without seeing other people then that proves a strong relationship.
But who cares about what other’s think. If you’re really that worried maybe you should wait another year? </p>