<p>I know this is a really selfish thread, but I am sad. I actually wasn't sad when I found out all my decisions - I was sad when my brother showed me the Yale admitted students website, and then I was sad again when he got three packages in the mail (HYP) the same day I got 4 rejections and 2 waitlists. I offered to trade - he'd get two for the price of one. And then I was sad when I referred to something Yale-related and my dad implied it was my brother's turf, not mine. What a jab in the ribs.</p>
<p>So that's about it. I'm coping, but underneath the Maize and Blue faux enthusiasm is a very sad, waitlisted-at-Yale Becky.</p>
<p>Oh frecklybeckly, you are such a sweetheart. I can't bear to see you sad like this. You are strong inside; I see that coming through very often. But your feelings are real and understandable. Allow yourself a little sadness, but remember that the qualities that really matter are strong in you: resilience, sensitivity, kindness - just to name a few.</p>
<p>PS I am staying right here until you feel at least a LITTLE better.</p>
<p>Honey, you have EVERY RIGHT to be sad. What happened to you IS sad. You are such a very bright, talented, sweet gal. I realize that your disappointment is exacerbated by having a brother receiving all of the things that you had dreamed of as well. Honestly, I don't know how my son would have been able to handle what you are going through. </p>
<p>I so hope that your father's comment was unintentional. Sometimes we say things without thinking, and it sounds like he really put his foot in his mouth this time. I am so sorry.</p>
<p>I will reiterate my opinion that Michigan is a fabulous school where you are likely to have fabulous experiences! I know it's hard right now to muster the enthusiasm, but I can sure picture you down the road, looking back with gratitude that life's little twist has left you in a better place than you had ever imagined. </p>
<p>If Michigan had offered my son <em>any</em> money at all, we might have had a decision. He got into the Honors Program there and was THRILLED by the prospect!</p>
<p>Hang in there Becky...I am sending you cyber hugs and all the best wishes I have! love, ~berurah</p>
<p>i'm sure you'll love michigan, my favorite teacher in the world who i love love LOVE and who is absolutely brilliant went to michigan! shes also big on the fact that ivy leagues do NOT secure happiness. i'm sure you'll be so happy there (by the way, i have a super-smart brother too, but luckily hes younger than me so i dont have to deal with the competition yet... he'll be a freshman next year when i'm a senior). good luck!!</p>
<p>It is a difficult time, but please don't be sad. Michigan is one of the world's great universities and you will not only get a fine education there but probably have a tremendous amount of fun. Very likely, at this time next year you will wonder if any school could be as right for you as Michigan. </p>
<p>That said, it is hard sometimes to see one's siblings or friends get recognition and feel that you are not getting your share, but you are not alone. Last year, my younger child, who wanted very much to go to the college my older child had gone to, ended up with a waitlist decision not just from that school but from four others. Of her circle of friends she was the only one not to be going to a "dream" school, and her pride was hurt. (She was deferred ED before being waitlisted in the spring, so it was especially drawn out and painful, and most of her friends had gotten in ED or EA so the contrast was especially stark.) But the school she ended up at is a fine school and a good fit. And the same thing will be true for your college experience.</p>
<p>I hope you're feeling better after reading the responses on this forum; you have so much to offer and so much to look forward to.</p>
<p>Just wanted to add that I am a twin and the one who was accepted to all the colleges I applied to while my brother got in his safety and waitlisted at his other choices.....................trust me, I am so hurt for my brother. This has been very hard on our entire family.</p>
<p>Hi Becky I'm so sorry you're having this experience. I'm sure it must be very painful. One of the experience you'll have going away to college will be to have some separation and to establish your own identity-- and a wonderful identity it is too! You have a gift of singing that is entirely your own--I'm sure your brother can't sing the way you can!!!! Hang in there....you'll get past this.<br>
andi</p>
<p>I feel for you, Becky--this must be awfully hard. I agree with others that the University of Michigan is a great school, and I suspect the adventure of going somewhere fresh with amazing new people and opportunities will turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you. But I can see why you would feel sad right now.</p>
<p>I've been following many of your posts on CC, and have seen a pattern of optimism and resilience that will stand you in good stead through the ups and downs that eventually come to everyone--even to those who breeze through college admissions. Hang in there, and know that you have many friends who are rooting for you.</p>
<p>It's okay to be sad; who wouldn't be? It doesn't sound selfish to me. It's a key week in an emotionally charged process, and you're experiencing a very wide range of emotions. Even if your brother got no mail on the day you were notified of 4 denials and 2 waitlists, it would still be a lot to process. Be kind to yourself, feel what you feel, and give yourself some time to sort out those feelings. Your day will come, really it will.</p>
<p>It's okay to be sad. But you know, this is one of the best reasons for twins not to attend the same school. At UMich, you will be your own person--and you will SHINE! And your parents will be able to rejoice in your successes and triumphs as they will rejoice in your brother's without anyone, including yourself, comparing yourself to him. And remember, you can only go to ONE school, no matter how many admit you. Isn't it wonderful that the one school is such a great school?</p>
<p>Freckly,
Throughout your various posts, your kindness and loving personality has always shown through. That includes now. Yes, you have a right to feel sad. It is hard having dreams dashed. Your feeling sad is not a reflection of being selfish or of a lack of love or appreciation of your brother's good fortune.</p>
<p>It is OK to allow yourself to feel sad. Giving yourself this permission also will make it easier to truly move on and appreciate the wonderful opportunity of going to U Mich.</p>
<p>Hugs to you. Keep posting about your feelings -- the downs and the ups. You know we're here for you. :)</p>
<p>This may seen like a long night in your life but we promise that Joy will come in the morning. You have been admitted into a great school, where as Marite says where you will get to shine. Those that already don't know will see just how special you are.</p>
<p>Congratulations ! Becky, on your UMICH acceptance</p>
<p>Promise us that you won't abandon CC (and us) ... and that you will be back next year (not that you're leaving yet now!) to tell us all about your shining experiences at Michigan. Things do have a way of working out ... and Marite is so right ... you will be so much happier on your own turf. And aren't Michigan students known to be not only smart - but also fun-loving students??? </p>
<p>I highly doubt that your dad meant to hurt you. I can't tell you how many times I've said the "wrong thing" to the "wrong twin" while trying to say the right thing. </p>
<p>You are special. Your parents know it, your brother knows it, and most of all, you should know it too. Michigan does, for sure!!!!</p>