<p>“There is like this 2 week period which begins once college starts. After that period, cliques and groups of friends have already formed. If you haven’t found most of your friends in those first two weeks, chances are, you aren’t going to have many friends, if any.”</p>
<p>Not true. Clique entering is pretty easy if you know what you’re doing. In fact most cliques do want to expand and incorporate new people who have an equal or higher social value, they just give off an appearance being closed. It’s actually an ingenious device for cliques to use - essentially the losers who don’t have the social skills and confidence to try to break the bubble around a clique don’t even try or get too uncomfortable with the closed nature. But people who know how socialization works and have the ability to through themselves into a seemingly closed situation, aka ‘winners’, get into the clique, and thus the clique expands well.</p>
<p>it will be ok that you are a little scared because the other people that you meet in college are going to be scared also … it really is a nerve racking time and experience - But you will do fine as you are probably a great person anyway to get to know … have a good easter …</p>
<p>I have a friend that had the same problem and was shy throughout high school, but he quickly bonded with his roommates. From what I’ve heard, there’s groups for all types in college, and you won’t feel left out.</p>
<p>To act on your own initiative should always comes first,which means you can’t be so shy any more. then everything just natuarally turn out alright…</p>
<p>is this a good idea:
make a list about yourself such as age, residence and interests and tape it outside your door to find people with similarities :)</p>
<p>haha this is exactly the opposite of how i feel. I move a ton so i can’t wait to finally make some friends who i won’t have to leave after a year…</p>
What is this even supposed to mean? How about I change a few words around and show you how ridiculous your statement is?
Solving problems in topology is pretty easy if you know what you’re doing.</p>
<p>Point is, a shy person is not going know how to become a part of clique or group of people after the group has been long formed unless it happens naturally within those first two weeks. And I’m not even the person who noticed this phenomenon. My orientation leader told me about it in the beginning of the year, and I didn’t believe him. Two weeks later, I saw how right he was. I know several people who go to other universities and have been completely isolated from the rest of the students because of the bad first impressions.</p>
<p>And, Lophotrochozoa, if you believe it was an “odd twist of fate” that made you friends, then you must not be thinking much. The advice you gave is good (joining clubs, leaving your door open, etc.), but you are very misleading in your first paragraph. If people are going to depend on “fate” to get friends, instead of approaching people themselves, then, like I said, you have a high chance of making very few friends. It is very misleading to say that shy people in high school made a lot of friends in college, because those shy people in high school must have changed and became more outgoing, or else it wouldn’t happen.</p>