<p>I have had 2 best friends throughout the entire middle school / high school, and I will be separated from them :(</p>
<p>I am scared because I'll be alone..</p>
<p>is it very hard for shy people to make good friends at college?</p>
<p>I won't shut anyone down, but I don't usually approach ppl first either :-l</p>
<p>help!</p>
<p>you’ll be fine. a lot of people feel exactly the same way as you. colleges have a lot of programs that make the transition very easy. ull make a lot of friends during orientation and even if you don’t you are bound to make friends. don’t worry!!!</p>
<p>Lots of other people feels the exact same way that you do, even if they don’t show it. You should try to approach people first and definitely don’t shut anyone down. Also, when people ask you to do something, don’t say no. If you say no a few times, they stop asking you to do things with them because they assume you don’t want to. You’ll be fine…it may be a little rough at first (I know it was for me, I was super close with my group of friends from high school) but it will all turn out okay in the end.</p>
<p>dont worry everyone else is feeling the same thing…i thought that too and now im in my second semester of freshmen year in college and I’ve met sooooooo many cool people. you have to want to meet people and it should just happen, kind of like it happened in high school. Dont be shy, be outgoing. You will be fine.</p>
<p>thank you… I am very relieved !!!
My sister struggled to find her ‘soul mate’ at college, so that didn’t help…
I don’t want to be an antisocial loner!!! Argh</p>
<p>were you nervous your first day of school?</p>
<p>1st day of middle school?</p>
<p>in your own words…“I have had 2 best friends throughout the entire middle school / high school…”</p>
<p>relax, you will make friends.</p>
<p>My bets friend evah has been apart from me</p>
<p>but thansk to skype, facebook, and occassional IMin we are kept in touch!
plus he comes and visits me every now and then!</p>
<p>Ive had my best friends since elementary school… We are separating… I guess this will test how best our friendship is.</p>
<p>Junior in high school</p>
<p>Oh wow, I’m excited about the college process. There are so many other people to meet, you should be okay. Eventhough this is coming from me, I dont/never had a best friend ( nothing to be ashame of) just friends equally, so maybe this post may not be that helpful. Though speaking of college, tons of people/ students to meet.</p>
<p>I was nervous the 1st day of middleschool, but ever since then I had someone familliar 
My buddys don’t do facebook (I know, shocking) so I’ll have to email them often I guess…</p>
<p>Thanks everyone
I feel pretty comfortable now!</p>
<p>College is a time to reinvent yourself! I was relatively reserved in high school, but I decided that I wanted to become outgoing and gregarious in college, and that’s what I did. I never really had a ‘best friend’ in high school, but I made many close friends in college and am making more in graduate school now.</p>
<p>Remember, no one knows you – no one knows that you’re shy, so you don’t have to be.</p>
<p>And you can always keep in touch with your best friends through the proliferation of social networking and communication websites.</p>
<p>OP</p>
<p>hook them up on webcams</p>
<p>seriously!
skype is the best thing ever!</p>
<p>just look at the people who post on this site. almost every other post is about someone being socially awkward. its very normal.</p>
<p>Haha, I’m sort of in the same situation. I have a few very close friends and everyone else is more of an acquaintance. Good luck to us all :p.</p>
<p>You might want to look at colleges that are considered “nuturing”. On the internet, there is a list of colleges called “colleges that change lives”. A lot of schools have pre-college programs and orientations that would make you feel very comfortable. I can’t remember what school it was, but at the beginning of every year, the school would designate tables in the dining hall for each residence hall (in addition to open tables). The dining hall experience is like the cafeteria experience - it can be nerve wrecking if you don’t know where to sit / have anyone to sit with. The first few weeks of classes, you can sit with your residence hall and make friends that way. It sounded like these tables were popular with freshman, so it didn’t seem “weird” to sit there. You might want to consider colleges with programs like that. It would reduce a lot of stress, I imagine.</p>
<p>I am afraid as well. Where are you going? Are there any clubs there that hold the same intrests as you do? That might help.</p>
<p>I’m going to UC Berkeley - it’s a huge school, so I’m afraid I might get lost among the outgoing people.</p>
<p>Oh boy, your right that is big. Maybe you will be able to make a friend in the library(sp) or something.</p>
<p>Every other incoming freshman feels exactly the way you do, which is why its so easy for freshman to make friends quickly- they’re all in the same position. Anyways you’re probably going to love college, it’s so much better than high school, so don’t worry. :)</p>
<p>And I know it’s not the same, but you can always call and text your hs friends whenever you want. Chances are they’ll want to keep in contact too.</p>
<p>I’m a little afraid of being the dumbest person around me (I have one class in high school where I feel that way and it’s not a good feeling). I just don’t want that feeling throughout college in all of my classes. </p>
<p>Here’s what I’m going to do, get over it, do my best, and accecpt whatever happens. You should try the same.</p>