<p>GoMiami:</p>
<p>I don’t want you to get discouraged – your situation is very common, despite what you read here on CC. Many, many, many people are not ready for a four-year college right out of high school. I don’t know the current statistic, but just a few years ago, it was that only about 25% of Americans had graduated or will graduate from college. And out of that group, many of them don’t follow the “traditional” path. </p>
<p>My brother-in-law is a good example. He wasn’t ready maturity-wise to go off to a four-year college, couldn’t afford it anyway (my wife did her first year at a CC before going off to William & Mary, as did her other brother before going off to Virginia Tech), and just didn’t want to. He went to the community college right in their town in South Jersey, did okay, and played on the baseball team. After two years, he applied to transfer into and was accepted at what was then Western Maryland College (now known as McDaniel College, one of the “Colleges that Change Lives”). His mother and grandfather took him out to Western Maryland, helped him move in, said their goodbyes, and headed home. Their strategic mistake: they let him have his car at school. My mother-in-law got a call a couple of days later from the Dean just checking on him because they hadn’t seen him since move-in day. She found him camped out at a friend’s house, where he had been since he packed up his things and left Western Maryland College about 10 minutes after his mother and grandfather drove away. He didn’t want to be there but was too afraid to tell anyone.</p>
<p>Anyway, he worked for a few years, found out how expensive life is, how hard and monotonous making a living can be without an education, found the right girl who coaxed him back toward completing his education, and he eventually finished his bachelor’s degree in education at a local school (then Glassboro State College, now Rowan University) as a commuter student. He taught high school science, got his M.Ed. at another local commuter school (then Wilmington College, now Wilmington University) and he is now a high school principal. </p>
<p>A few years ago, an acquaintance was telling us about dropping her son off at McDaniel for his freshman year. She said that in the parent/student welcome session, the Dean told a story about a kid who a number of years earlier had bolted the minute his family was out of sight and how he hadn’t confided in anyone how overwhelmed he was and how the school has many people there to help so don’t do what this poor kid did. The story included certain details that were clearly my brother-in-law. My understanding is that this same story is now a standard part of the welcome weekend. </p>
<p>The point is that there are many different paths you can take. Make the most of the one that is open before you. For the vast majority of us, the exact path won’t make any difference in the long-term. What will matter is that you took a path.</p>