<p>I don’t feel superior, but I feel like college has widened the gap between me and the people with whom I eat lunch, all of whom I call my friends, but only about half of whom I actually like. They’re all going to schools in Ohio or Kentucky. And I’m just like, yeah, I know nothing about any schools in Ohio.<br>
One girl got into Northwestern and they all say, “Oh go there, not Miami. Miami’s really preppy.” And I’m just like, “you guys doknow Northwestern students shake their keys at so-called state schoolers at football games to imply that those people will someday be parking their cars?” (Side note: I like NU and normally only disparage it to make fun of my sister. Don’t hate me future NU people!)
I can’t even talk about financial aid with them because they’re all “How will I ever pay 10,000 for college?” while my best friend and I sit on one side of the lunch table and are all, “OMG, Millancad, you only have to pay 10,000 at blah ridiculous school? That’s so cool.”
And then, I don’t know if this is because of college, but that same best friend in the last paragraph has started being all “Millancad, I’ve felt inferior to you since the 5th grade when you started taking math a year ahead of all of us.” It makes me sad :(. And I think it’s crazy. She’s really smart, and started taking the same math classes as I in 7th grade anyway.</p>
<p>Millancad, I can understand that of your friend. I’ve always kinda felt inferior to some of my friends, but that only made me work harder and now I’m going to a great college next year. I wouldn’t feel bad if I were you, especially since it was not intentional by any means. As long as your friend knows that, I think your friendship is safe.</p>
<p>I live in Tennessee. My twin sister is going to UT Knoxville. I am going to Vanderbilt. I have a full ride; she has a full ride. We just took different paths. She is going to be in a very prestigious honors program and I am just going to a hoity-toity school. </p>
<p>I don’t feel superior to her, or to my older sister (she goes to Tennessee Tech). They have different paths and I respect that.</p>
<p>It’s such a crapshoot, admissions is. 30 people at my school applied to Vanderbilt. Four got in, two got waitlisted, and the rest were rejected. One girl waved her acceptance around the entire school. She was freaking obnoxious. </p>
<p>Honestly, these kids that aren’t going to a top 20 or less school, they will probably have an easier time in college. I know my academics will be harder. Woo hoo. It’s not worth it to work so hard just for prestige. It seems like that was what the OP did. He will be largely unsatisfied in life if he keeps that up.</p>
<p>If you are living the life 30 years from now and all of them are (in your opinion) in lesser straights, then you can look down at them. Not now.</p>
<p>No one cares. No one at your school is losing sleep because you go into duke and they didn’t. You are the only one obsessing and you are just bitter because your entire life you only had the academics to strive for. and the thing is it’ll be the same at duke, except this time you won’t be the one who looks down at others. go get laid son.</p>
<p>Why all the hate? In case you didn’t notice, he stated that he didn’t like feeling this way, and that this feeling of superiority is something he does not feel comfortable about. </p>
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<p>So instead of telling him he’s a crappy person for having these sentiments, why not teach him that feelings of superiority are ultimately unwarranted given a large enough competitive population, and leave it at that. </p>
<p>You’re essentially demeaning him for not having the type of character you would expect from others. How is that any different from his demeaning others for not getting into as good of a school as him? At least he acknowledged his faults, and if he’s really trying to change, that’s good enough.</p>
<p>So everyone get off your high horse, whether intellectually or socially, gain some perspective, and move on with life. Or at the very least, try to keep your sentiments and personal opinions in check. Whichever’s good.</p>
<p>Oh boy, I know exactly what you mean. I used a couple ivy league schools as my safety schools.</p>
<p>what i really want to know is how do you know where people got accepted/rejected to ?</p>
<p>^^^Good point.</p>
<p>However, don’t just accuse everyone of being on “high horses,” which is the most overused cliche ever.</p>
<p>Well…hm…It’s nice that he recognizes he’s “ashamed,” and feels “guilty,” so do you think this is a more natural progression towards not feeling superior…and that s/he just shouldn’t have posted? I’m not sure what the OP wants to hear that hasn’t been said already. At least you recognize how you feel, which is a hard step to do, actually. </p>
<p>Hm…How do you feel now, OP? Just curious!!! I’m interested :)</p>
<p>The OP feels like crap :[</p>
<p>He’s not sure if his jerk of a dad wants to pay a lot for Duke…and might just send me to UCLA :[[</p>
<p>Go ahead and feel superior. It’s your reward for stomaching years of abuse. I love it when the stuck-up know-it-all overachievers get rejected from everywhere they want to go… it makes me believe in some cosmic purpose.</p>
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<p>Oh no, what a shame…<em>rolls eyes</em></p>
<p>Yeah, okay, I agree with the way you phrased it and the emoticons, doesn’t really make anyone pity you. But I can sort of understand what you’re saying. And well, if I were an obnoxious jerk I’d be like, sucks for you. Should have spent more time studying and less time partying so that you’d have been offered the AB Scholarship at Duke. OR I’d be like, you’re an idiot. You didn’t get into Harvard? Duke’s the best you can do?</p>
<p>I don’t know. There’s something wrong with you as a person, it’s a personality issue. Don’t get mad, I’m not attacking you, even though I sort of am. I’m just saying it how I see it. You’re definitely not the worst though, at least you feel bad about it. As to how to fix it, well, I guess you’re the only one who can.</p>
<p>Yeah, I feel kind of bad. I mean, I really wanted to go to Duke, but even if I had gotten in, I wouldn’t feel better than anyone. The college admissions process is really random. I can easily think of people who are more “qualified” than me that didn’t get into the Ivies, while I got into all of them. It really means nothing to be accepted/rejected.</p>
<p>For example, I was rejected by Stanford and waitlisted by Duke, but got into every single Ivy, and the other schools in the top 30. But I know someone who is going to our state school because he gets special treatment there. And he is much more intelligent than I am. The point is that college acceptances =/= better.</p>
<p>Oh, and OP, natim1 got into Princeton/Harvard and also doesn’t feel superior.</p>
<p>^Wow you got Harvard, Princeton, and Yale?? lol Why are you complaining?!?!</p>
<p>I’m not complaining at all. I’m thrilled beyond belief. I’m just saying that I’m not thrilled enough to look down on people who didn’t get into the top 3 schools in the nation, and that I realize that in no way am I better than people simply because of which colleges accepted me.</p>
<p>^Aww I love your advice. You’re really cool, Anonymous93 :]
If you really really like Duke, then I would trade my Duke acceptance letter for your Princeton one any day :D</p>
<p>so you’re whining about feeling superior, but you want to go to a better school now, because you feel no pain based on what someone told you on a forum, I’m baffled.</p>
<p>^ I share your puzzlement.</p>
<p>Well, I DO want to go to Duke…because its soooo hard for people to get in! I mean this year they had like a 13% admit rate.</p>
<p>Almost every CA school sends someone to UCLA and Cal rite? So where’s the fun in that? I thought going to Duke would be unique and a great opportunity, tis all :]
I would be the first kid from our family circle to go to an “elite top 10” school at that! I have waaayyy too many cousins and friends who go to UCs, so.</p>
<p>Uhmm what do you mean by “feeling no pain based on what someone told you on a forum”?</p>