I am serious about dentistry and anesthesiologist, but it’s the money issue, it’s always been the money issue and I don’t know what to do anymore.
They say money won’t make a person happy, I highly disagree with that key point, money does make some people happy.
I think they are serious. They have now left community college and enrolled in a university, which is something that was a topic of many discussions a few months ago.
But I think they have a lot of misunderstanding about how careers work, and that their undestanding doesn’t match with reality, which is causing a lot of stress.
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You should go to your career center at your university. They will hopefully help you find a career that is the best match for the salary that you want and the amount of education and effort that is needed to achieve that.
It won’t be as much money as you hope, and it won’t be as little effort and time as you want, but they will be the best people to help you navigate this situation that you are in.
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It’s actually impressive that they have gotten where they’re at. They certainly have potential.
I agree they have an interesting view of how life itself and careers work. Hopefully they’ll actually figure it out one day.
I was already so far past the point of no return , I couldn’t remember what it looked like when I had passed it already. The stress is leaving dark stains on my soul that would never come off. I felt like flatlining sometimes or have panic attacks.
I am so sorry to hear this. I can see that it is very stressful.
I am sure that your university has a health center, and it’s usually free or very low cost to see a doctor there. They can help with stress and anxiety. Can you call them and make an appointment so they can help you?
For now I’ll just hold it in and save it for a rainy day been to busy with this degree at the moment.
It should only take a few minutes to call them or to schedule an appointment online, and then it should take less than an hour to walk to the health center, wait a few minutes and be seen by the doctor. I really think that is something you should do, and you should tell them about your stress and your anxiety and your panic attacks.
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The only thing that’s keeping me stress free is watching nostalgia video on Tik Tok about the 90’s and 2000’s
School Rooftop Song by hisohkah
Every time I watch nostalgia videos it triggers deep thoughts
Such as how come I never lived that perfect life as a young person?, Why didn’t I just finish high school at the age of 18? Where did I go wrong in life and wasted years for nothing, why didn’t I have perfect parents who were college graduates 
Tormenting questions I don’t have the answers too
Even if I go to a doctor I won’t talk, I’ll just stay quit like I always have
Movies and tv are not based on reality and no one actually lives or lived the way that they do on movies and tv shows.
And regret is awful. Everyone has it. But the only thing to do is to put it behind you and start with what you have now.
Please make an appointment with a medical doctor or a therapist. There are medications and therapies that can help people who are stressed and anxious. So many people on college are feeling the way that you are. Nothing you tell them will shock them — they have heard it all before and have the best tools to help you meet your goals.
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I meant such as having an awesome childhood and having everything handed to them. Other kids had it all and I had nothing growing up, once I got older, I had to work hard for everything to own good clothing, shoes, and so on. Feels like that part of my childhood has shattered after that made it even worse just doing nothing and finally deciding to go to college back in 2019.
Mitt Romney? I’m no Mitt fan about his politics, but the dude sure worked hard before he ran for office. Rand Paul- I hate the guy, but he put in his time doing legitimate work before he became a politician. Etc. I won’t bore you with the HUNDREDS of people serving in office who had actual careers before politics.
You don’t like taxes? I guess you don’t care if your house burns down. Or if your mom is having a heart attack, you don’t want to be able to pick up a phone and call 911 and have paramedics come to your house. Etc.
I have always tried to help you out when you post. But if you just come hear to rant that you want a lot of money, and it’s someone else’s fault that you don’t have any- then good-bye. I’ve tried to help you on various other threads about how to dig yourself out of the hole you are in… and now you are going to sabotage yourself, when you are finally in college to complete your Bachelor’s degree?
Stop thinking about why you aren’t a millionaire. Stop thinking about taxes and why society is so unfair. Stop thinking about how you coulda shoulda woulda become an anesthesiologist (which in and of itself is a strange aspiration. FIRST you become an MD. THEN you get to focus on a specialty- and if you don’t get matched with a residency in anesthesiology, then what- you give up on medicine?) Stop thinking about dentistry.
You are finishing your degree which is great. Stay focused. Get counseling if your negative thoughts are spinning out of control.
You remind me of a childhood friend who wanted a “fabulous” career doing something or other but it had to be fabulous and she needed to be famous.
Friends encouraged her to get certified to teach-- nope, not fabulous. Family encouraged her to get an AA to become a phlebotomist, Pharm Tech, fifteen other healthcare careers- nope, not the route to fame and riches.
She’s working for minimum wage in retail, counting down until retirement and her social security kicks in. She could have had an actual career- helping people, certainly making more money than her current gig. But nothing that actual people do for a living was exciting enough for her.
Don’t let this be you. Focus. You have a chance to reboot your adult life-- just finish your degree and finish strong.
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You are blaming your parents for your life???
The same parents who are currently feeding and housing you?
You are not a young child anymore. Deal with the situation that YOU have created. Your parents didn’t cause this circumlocution, you did this all on your own.
You need some serious counseling to address this entitlement BS.
No one needs you to talk because you’ve expressed yourself quite enough. Please “learn to learn” HOW to listen.
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If this is how you are going to view your life, I suggest you seriously get some counseling. It’s fine to want to earn a decent living, but it’s not fine (in my opinion) to think you can earn millions by not working hourly.
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The whole point of the BS degree was to make it a backup plan to fall on.
I just remembered something, even new actresses and actors barely make it, if they shoot season 1 and 2 that’s the end of it.
I remember I spoke on Skype with this person he said he had to Uber everyday to his job role as an actor since he didn’t have a car and one other person told me she had to sell her car to make some money cause the acting job was not enough, I see what you mean now lol, Hollywood is very competitive a person an go from riches to rags in seconds.
I would agree if you actually had a Plan A…but you don’t.
IIRC you are approaching 30 years old. The notion that you will earn millions and be able to retire by 35 is just not believable.
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Maybe impossible to achieve unless someone does something 
BSN was my plan A but don’t know what plan B is yet, a BS was necessary for me since all hope got lost after CC.
There are hundreds of careers available to you once you get your Bachelor’s. So focus on that! This is your ticket up and out, whether or not you believe it.
I only want dentistry and anesthesiologist after my BS degree is completed. Now come to think of it I want both careers. Both part times.