<p>Hello this is my first and probably last post on here. So ive been having a terrible time at school. I cant make any friends, im chronically unhappy and i dont like school in general. I had no problem in high school making friends, hell i even meet new people on the street everyday. but at school no one gives me the time of day. this really is frustrating because everyone seems to love college and i despise it. Ive tried joining clubs, socializing etc but no luck. im thinking about dropping out, ive hated school since 6th grade and was persuaded into thinking college would be way better, boy was i mislead. I cant even stand to go to classes. I have no clue what to do and i feel helpless. Thanks for listening.</p>
<p>Could it be that with all your unhappiness and anxiety you are giving off a negative vibe inadvertently? Instead of dreading classes could you try to find at least one interesting part of the lecture to become involved in? Could you spend time in the common rooms of your dorm, without headphones on, and strike up a conversation with another student, who probably feels the way you do? Are there any intramural teams that interest you? If you leave your dorm room door open, you never know who might wander in, looking for the same thing you are? </p>
<p>I do not give off a negative vibe whatsoever, I smile most of the time. I try to find common interests when talking to people, if not that then I make jokes. I do not dorm either I commute to school. I have never been interested in school I only came to college because I was lead to think “its the best time of your life” or “college is WAY better than high school” both of which so far are complete lies. Looks like I came to the wrong place for advice…</p>
<p>You’ve been in school since, what, some time in September?</p>
<p>Give it a chance.</p>
<p>Been here since early august actually, but if you must know I took summer courses there as well starting in early june. Ive given it a chance, I am a very open minded individual.</p>
<p>Leaving school because you don’t like it is a very personal decision. College Confidential can give you a lot of good advice about filling out applications, applying for scholarships, improving test scores, dealing a bad roommate and so on. I don’t think you’re going to get the kind of help you need here.</p>
<p>The most I can offer is this: not everyone should go to college right after high school, and many people lead happy lives even if they never go.</p>
<p>Thank you for your input, first valuable thing I have gotten so far.</p>
<p>Try to find an apprenticeship program. These are very valuable - very different learning than college.</p>
<p>Before you drop out, decide what you’re going to do instead. Is there a career you’re aiming for, and can you do that without a degree? Think about the effect this’ll have on your future. College isn’t for everyone, but make sure you won’t limit yourself by leaving.</p>
<p>If you do decide to stay, you just have to keep working at making friends. It takes a while, and it can be frustrating when you’re in a new place and don’t know anyone. Sorry it’s been hard for you. :(</p>
<p>@failure622 thanks for the advice, im considering now not dropping out but switching schools. Another problem I have in school is I feel like the work im doing is pointless, I dont even get to work on my major until senior year, but I feel that if I can go to school where I work on my major all 4 years it could help me get interested and motivated in school. The problem is that this school costs 3x more than my current school. In my current school I dont need financial aid yet, but if i switch school i will need financial aid and loans most likely.</p>
<p>What is your intended major and career? </p>
<p>You say this: "I do not give off a negative vibe whatsoever, "</p>
<p>And then this: "Looks like I came to the wrong place for advice… "</p>
<p>That was some valuable advice, and you responded to it very poorly. You came across as though you felt criticized by it. Smiling all the time doesn’t mean that you’re going to give off a positive vibe all the time. If you are really unhappy with college and find there to be nothing enjoyable about it, it’s going to show in the vibe you put off. </p>
<p>You make it sound as though there’s nothing you enjoy about it, but there has to be something. Do you find none of your classes interesting at all? </p>
<p>What major are you in? You say that you won’t be taking classes in your major until your senior year. I have never heard of a major that works that way. The first couple of years do involve a lot of gened courses, but you should still be taking the lower level courses within your major. Given that you’re very unhappy with college, transferring to a school that costs 3x as much may not be a wise decision. What if you transfer and decide that you’re still unhappy with college? You can still drop out of course, but then you’d be doing it with a bunch of student loan debt. </p>
<p>If you do drop out, what type of interests would you pursue? Do you like working with your hands and fixing things? Some kind of trade school or technical school could be a good option to consider. Those types of schools are a great deal different than a purely academic program. Nearly all of the courses will be directly within your field of study, and those that aren’t will still be geared toward your field of study. Those programs generally don’t take anywhere near as long to complete either. </p>