<p>Yes, I realize that this is not a new complaint, but it's been bothering me, so here goes...</p>
<p>I started out in the Ivy League. I got sick with mono and had to go home to recoup. A couple years later, I was feeling better but not competely well, so I enrolled in a state school near my house.</p>
<p>I hated it, and I don't know why. I think it was the other kids. They were all upper-middle class and extremely closed-minded and uncreative. I felt even more alienated than I did at my part time job, and I couldn't relate to any of the other kids there. I sometimes go through comments on students review to see if it will help me feel any better, but it's always nonsense about how the football team rocks, or the school is ghetto and full of "hood rats". I don't know what to make of such shallow generalizations.</p>
<p>I'll probably go back to my Ivy League institution once I'm feeling better. I didn't like it there either, but it was bearable. The student body was a lot better. All I really want is to learn, and not have to worry a lot about busy work and petty professors with ginormous egos.</p>
<p>I'm hoping that someone else will chime in and help me fee less alone here. I can't figure out why I would have had a problem with a place which most people thought was just hunky-dory. How can they be so complacent?</p>
<p>Yeah, I had mono too one year and that really made things miserable. College just seems like something that people that are “with it” need to go through in order to be socially respectable members; I guess those of us that don’t really like college just need to endure and hope for a better future.</p>
<p>I am sorry to hear about your health challenge. College “fit” in terms of college personality/type of student, is spoken of frequently here on CC and I guess that’s why it’s important. I actually left an ivy because it wasn’t me. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It sometimes takes more than one try to find your niche. Don’t lose hope or heart. Just know that you matter and that life is a journey which is not always a straight line. Perseverance and faith are important. You are obviously a talented person with much to contribute to the world. How lucky you are to have the time to ponder. You will figure it out. Trust your intuition.</p>
<p>If you are hating college it usually means you are either A) at the wrong school B) haven’t connected with peers or made any new friends C) are in the wrong major or classes and sometimes D) not at the right place in your life to attend school (ie work/family responsibility, not focused etc). Make a list of everything you are unhappy with and be honest about where those issues fall. I and would suggest first look at what you can change at your current school (go out for a club, talk to people in the lib or coffee house, be open to experiences on campus, explore class options) and if you still feel miserable then look at transferring. Sometimes college fit can make all the difference. good luck!</p>
<p>thanks. I think my major was right, but my school was awful. I was only enrolled there as it was close to my house and had the degree I wanted.</p>
<p>I think I am one of those people who just, simply, hates school, and I don’t know what to do about it. I think a lot about going back but my immune system is still broken and I just don’t have it in me right now to deal with busywork and immature coeds.</p>
good luck!</p>