I am a 23 yr old transfer I loved my comm college it was awesome plus I was able to return home after a long day. I’ve been at my school for 1.5 yr and have another yr left. It is the only school with my main major (I have two) and I can’t transfer anywhere due to that. I hate presenting in front of class I’m dreading one of those first day back. I hate everything everyone is rediculously immature I took over two years off I’m in construction and make more money per hour that 6 regular students combined. I am not going into construction right away as that is a whole different story. I just dread going back to school every moment I’m there and everything about it. I am in clubs I have been active in social life and none of it helped even a little bit for my hatred of that place. Does anyone have any possible advice sorry I just rambled on this is my first post here so if anyone could direct me on some sort of help or a place or person to talk to that would be great.
The only option is to tough it out and finish out the remaining year. Don’t get bogged down by the ancillary people around you. Keep your eye on the prize, focus on getting the most out of your studies, See the presentation as a performance, as your chance to command the attention of the class and the professor and convey the message that you want to convey. In a few years these classmates will be in your rearview mirror and you will have moved on with your life.
You might want to talk to an academic counselor to make sure that you are on track to finish ASAP with the right credits. You could consider independent study/research if that helps satisfy your requirements, as that would presumably give you more control of your time and less exposure to the generic classmates that upset you.
If being surrounded by a bunch of 18-year-olds is annoying, I found night classes tended to skew older (it took me 6 years to get out, so I was your age when I graduated). Just a thought… Also, keep your eyes on the prized Remind yourself that you are there to get a degree (or two), period. No one gets extra points for having tons of fun in school - if you can’t manage to muster the enthusiasm, just know you will have something (hopefully) very marketable in the end.
I went to college at 17 but lived at home because we had no money for me to go away. I couldn’t stand the immaturity of the kids my age, so in my second year, I got a day job and went at night. I think @Undercrackers’ suggestion is an excellent one.
I second the living off campus route. Most of what makes college kids look like idiots is what they’re doing outside of class.
But another thing that’s apparent from your post is the dread of your upcoming presentation. That’s something specific you can work on and change (at least compared to changing the behavior of your 19 year old neighbors.) See if there’s someone on campus you can talk to about this and they may have things you can try to help prepare for those moments in your academic career. And that might also give you a helpful outlet for all the pent up frustration of dealing with non-peers on a regular basis.
Think of school as a job. It’s not about liking or not liking. It’s just about doing. Is there an older students club? If not, just try to ignore the college scene and just finish your work so that you can be done.
There might be academic support services where you can practice and be coached on your presentation before you do it. Practice won’t take all the nerves away, but it can sure help.
I took college classes at your age and know how hard it is. You are not old enough to really feel separate from the other undergrads, but you are more mature. It was actually easier taking college classes in my 30’s, for me. Not suggesting that though!
So you have one year- does that mean starting this fall? Can you take summer classes to speed it up?
Live off campus.
The advice to think of school like a job is spot on.
Find other social outlets: ■■■■■■■■■■? Any other way to have friends outside of school?
Get academic support for your dread of presentations and anything else.
If you continue to feel depressed, seek counseling.
If you really cannot do it, then by all means leave. Nothing is worth a year of complete and utter misery, especially if depression is involved. There are a lot of ways to finish school, and lots of time.
The majority of students, believe it or not, are “non-traditional”, in terms of age and how they go to college. You are not alone.