<p>"Hey, wanna go to the party tonight?"
"Naw man, I've gotta call my girl."</p>
<p>"Hey man, wanna hang out this weekend?"
"Naw man, I'm going home to see my girl."</p>
<p>"Hey, we have a lot in common. Want to catch a movie some time?"
"No, I've forfeited any opportunity to meet someone who I'm more compatible with now that college has changed me to cling on to a girl who is in a different life stage, who will dump me over thanksgiving."</p>
<p>If one doesn't enjoy calling or seeing his/her significant other more than attending some sleazy party, then why be in a relationship with that person in the first place? Geez..</p>
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If one doesn't enjoy calling or seeing his/her significant other more than attending some sleazy party, then why be in a relationship with that person in the first place? Geez..
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Not quite sure you're getting the point.</p>
<p>I know a guy that started dating a girl the summer before he left for college while she was going to start her senior year. They're still together and going to college in the same town next year.</p>
<p>Enlighten me.</p>
<p>edit: I get the point, really; but it seems kind of stupid to me.</p>
<p>to the OP: If you think the relationship is worth it, preserve what you have. Having faith in it should give you the strength to overcome temptations, issues, etc.</p>
<p>it wont be easy..but if you're willing to do it anw..then do it..
tell your gf that this wont be easy and make sure both of you really still want to do it.</p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>I would suggest abstinence until you are both at least 21 years old.</p>
<p>Maybe break up until your both in college. You should have fun now, its college and you only live once. If you are destined to get married and stuff you'll find each other again.</p>
<p>Sorry to say this, but I dont think it will work out =/</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I lasted only a few months (I'm a high school senior and he's a college freshman) and he didnt even go away for college. He'd make the 20-minute commute to a local college each and it still didnt work out. A friend of mine had a boyfriend that went to a college a couple of states away, and they didn't last either.</p>
<p>The social differences and maturity levels are what get to you.</p>
<p>chuy, i think this is the best reply ive seen just because thats probably exactly how it would happen
good, real, practical reply.</p>
<p>i got really attached to a guy during my high school career and he's going off to the marines and im starting college this fall.
both knew we would be meeting new people, changing, and learning how to deal with life differently so we decided that it would be best to start the new chapter in our lives without being tied down
plus, the odds of anything working out were slim just because im sure in college you'll have the urge to flirt and go out with a guy and with him being a marine, i would never see him anyways.</p>
<p>if ya stayed tied down, you'll meet less people because the motivation will be gone.
friends wont be as close because you'll be spending time attempting to stay in touch with your significant other.</p>
<p>its a new chapter of life. experience it the best you can and don't let a high school partner slow you down!</p>
<p>If you really love her, you'll want to talk to her over going out sometimes. My LDR has worked--it's been 4 years now (3 of which have been in colleges far away from each other). Yeah, I don't party a lot and instead of going to Florida for Spring Break with friends I go visit him, but I've never regretted any of these choices. I really enjoy having a constant in my life, but it's definitely not for everyone. As long as you guys decide before you leave when you'll see each other and how often you'll communicate, it can work...if you want it to.</p>
<p>i have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months now. I'm going to graduate from high school tomorrow and shes going to be a senior at high school. Im going to UNC at chapel hill in the fall. I live in Miami.
I told her it wasn't going to work out in the end because i dont believe in long distance relationships. She took it the wrong way and she is quite devastated about it. But she is refusing to let me go. What should I do?</p>
<p>my sister went to college while her bf was a senior. Her college was 3 hours from his town, but they kept in touch and are still in love. Now they're both in college not too far from each other and are planning on getting married eventually.</p>
<p>My ex went off to college last year while I was a senior in high school. We were QUITE madly in love, but we broke up a week after he left.</p>
<p>I know you're going to question the authenticity of the mentioned love, but the truth is, this stuff next to never works out. Someone always slips. In my case, it was him. Argh. I loathe that guy.</p>
<p>"I know you're going to question the authenticity of the mentioned love, but the truth is, this stuff next to never works out. Someone always slips. In my case, it was him. Argh. I loathe that guy."</p>
<p>Not always, but often enough that everyone should always examine a potential LDR very closely. A lot of people idiotically, baselessly think that they, their bf/gf, and their relationship are special and thus they will be the small X% that'll have the relationship survive the slings and arrows of jealousy, mistrust, infidelity, temptation, and opportunity (not in any particular order).</p>
<p>Break up before you leave. It'll be better for you (Especially if you can get over it before you get there, don't want to be mopey!), and from having watched a whole slough of relationships trying to get carried into College, they ALL failed. Including the one where the two were at the same college.</p>
<p>^^I agree, the same thing happened to me. That is my high school boyfriend and I both went to IU. We were together for 2 years, and we broke up the first day we got there, haha. And then when I went out that night with some of my friends, and I realized all of the new people I was about to meet over the next four years, and how many new and wonderful things were in my future. I don't regret ending that relationship. In fact, I would highly suggest not getting involved in a relationship the first year or two of college. Give yourself some time to discover new things about yourself and figure out who you are as a person; focus on your studies and meeting new people.</p>
<p>Man, I want to disagree.</p>
<p>My boyfriend is going to be a senior in high school when I'm a college freshman relatively nearby. It depends on his/her level of maturity, both of your levels of commitment. After being together three months I had to move halfway across the world and I've seen him 1 week in 8 whole months. </p>
<p>But then again, we are both ridiculously committed, 100% uninterested in anyone else.</p>
<p>College should be about having fun. So I say, if you want to stay with her, go for it. But you may feel strained especially if you're living on campus and whatnot.</p>
<p>mshaddal, i give you 2 months</p>
<p>I think if two people really love each other, then distance shouldn't matter. I think this sets people up with a mentality that, "if it is inconvenient for me, if i don't want to be faithful etc" which is why a lot of people find it so difficult to stay faithful in relationships even as they grow older. Of course, though in college you should meet new people. I guess I am a little biased because I'm basically married at this point, and know that there's no one else out there for me but the guy i am dating. It's a comfortable place to be in---</p>
<p>I guess the opinion of a discussion thread shouldn't have as much influence on your decision as your own personal judgment and feelings and rationale.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>