Staying loyal to your HS gf/bf in college?

<p>Is it really hard? I currently have a girlfriend and she's 2 grades younger than me. We are in a pretty seriously relationship and we've been going out for quite a while. We have promised each other that we'll get married and a bunch of other stuff. The thing is, during my first two years of college she's still going to be in high school (across the nation). Do you guys think its very hard to stay committed in high school? Before I got into this relationship, I looked forward to clubbing, partying, drinking, hooking up ect. in college but my girlfriend obviously doesn't want me to do any of that. Do you think it will be very hard to avoid those things in college? Are there a lot of other ways to have fun (And by having fun, I mean having fun not reading or going to museums or something like that, lol)</p>

<p>I don't know if our relationship is going to change if I go to college. I really hope not. As of now, we go to different high schools in different states so we're pretty used to the long distance relationship type thing, but college is a totally different environment.</p>

<p>Hahah, any input would be appreciated! Thanks!</p>

<p>ooooo bad. These topics come up quite frequently, and the outcome 99 times out of 100 is negative, but I'll let some actual college students weigh in. It's just that I don't think it's a good thing to not get that "college culture".</p>

<p>Just play it by ear. The days of marrying your HS sweetheart went out with the sock hop. You will have so much fun at college it won't even be funny. Have fun first and worry about your girlfriend later.</p>

<p>But for god's sake be honest. If you decide that random girls and 'the college experience' are more important that the relationship you're in, have the courage to tell the truth and break up rather than lie.</p>

<p>and earlier is always better than later. As soon as you see that you want to experience other girls besides her tell her. Don't wait it out.</p>

<p>You are young, and you're going to change so much in the next four years...you're going to miss out on alot of things if you're staying faithful to a long term relationship in college, and eventually you'll resent her for it.</p>

<p>isn't she going to college too?</p>

<p>she's 2 years behind him</p>

<p>You're relationship will change, no matter what, because you will change. But it won't necessarily change in a bad way.</p>

<p>You can still experience plenty in college while being in a committed relationship. You can go 'clubbing, partying, and drinking' without the 'hooking up' part. There are so many other things to experience too, things you just can't plan. I think a lot of people place far too much emphasize on the importance on hooking up with lots of different people. Seriously, hooking up with a bunch of girls will not make you more mature.</p>

<p>However, some people think they need the experience. I don't believe you do, but then again, I never have done it, so I really couldn't say. Then it comes down to how you really feel about your girlfriend. Do you really, truly love her? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with her? Will you miss her when the excitement of partying starts to rub off? Just think about it.</p>

<p>Oh, and you should also remember, that high school is a growing up period too. Your girlfriend will also be doing a lot of changing without you.</p>

<p>yeah, dont hook up w/ other girls, but feel free to go out and party. just bc you have a girlfriend doesnt mean you wont have fun. annd...whether or not you still want to be together when you're across the country will become clear to you by thanksgiving break.</p>

<p>annnd don't think that you're girlfriend isnt having the same thoughts about breaking up as you..</p>

<p>No, I mean isn't she going to college after she graduates? Because then it wouldn't just be 2 years, it would be 6 until you were both out of college and could really be together.</p>

<p>I wouldn't break up with her right now, wait until like a month or two into your college career to see if you are going to like the lifestyle, if not use her as your fall back plan.</p>

<p>since this seems like a long term relationship…it will stand the test of time if its meant to be…seriously</p>

<p>honestly, your priorities, as well as hers will change when she gets to college and your about to graduate</p>

<p>for now, see how it goes your 1st couple months but remember, you should experience college for all its worth</p>

<p>you guys talking about marriage, etc. etc., that’s cute and all but gotta remember, rarely does someone actually marry their high school let alone college sweetheart</p>

<p>If you really care about your relationship with her, i'm sure you could make things work. Realize that you two are going to change, so things are obviously, not going to stay the same. So do you really want to marry her? I mean if you really did, would these things matter? (shoot i sound like such a hopeless romantic right now) But also be realistic, people hardly ever end up marrying their high school sweet heart. you're going to change a lot between these four years, and so will she. Young people change a lot.. so both of you may not be the right people for each other in a couple years or so.
It's like buying shoes when you're little, sure, they fit you love them whatever, but you grow out of them eventually. It's better to just wait until your feet are grown, and then you can choose the best shoes which will fit longer than just a year or something.</p>

<p>Anyhow. I don't know what i'm trying to say.
But dude, don't use her as your fall back plan.. man.. boys can be such jerks sometimes O__O</p>

<p>yes...my typing skills must be improving =]</p>

<p>And ignore joev's advice.</p>

<p>I would strongly suggest breaking up. You will change more between the first two months in college than she will from now until high school graduation. You will miss out on so much of the college experience by staying with her. It goes beyond partying and hooking up - but making friends, hanging out, eating pizza and watching a movie just doesn't happen when you are on the phone with the girlfriend. It will bring out the absolute worst in your relationship - she will be quite insecure and you will (based on your post) feel really smothered. If things are meant to work, they will - but, most likely, you'll break up and really regret the time you spent with her while in college. A ton of relationships die during first semester - and I see this in law school, too.</p>

<p>there will be many temptations in college so i don't know about all this loyalty stuff</p>

<p>Go to college with her as your girlfriend, and only make girls as friends, if you find one thats worth breaking off the relationship then go for it or if you think there's plenty of girls that you could get. In general, I wouldn't worry about the hookups, it's not cheating if you're in different area codes anyways.</p>

<p>You can also always take a break and once you get tired of the college life, get back together.</p>

<p>In all honesty, I'd keep her around that way you'd have someone for you when you come home for thanksgiving, christmas, etc.</p>

<p>If you really think you're going to marry her no matter what(which I really doubt since you're going to change 3 times over in terms of who you are during college) then disregard all my advice and dont cheat.</p>