<p>I think i may have just messed up everything. I got into a little bit of trouble at my school (nothing major), and now my counselor says that he wont give me a recommendation letter. And if schools require your counselor to fill things out, i woint be able to apply to thoose schools. So am i basically screwed. And also do most schools require your counselor to write a letter or fill out an evaluation? thanks for your help</p>
<p>....what did you do? Is this school or district policy, or is your counselor making an arbitrary decision?</p>
<p>You could have your assistant principle or principle do the recommendation instead. You should really talk to the counselor and smooth things out.</p>
<p>I skipped AP Psyc and told the secretary that i had a dentist appointment. And somehow he found out i lied. This is actually my fault but i dont think he should ruin my chances at getting into a good college. And this isn't school policy, my counselor was just mad and he told me he wouldn't write me one. Im gonna go talk to him tomorrow morning. But do most colleges require a evaluation from your school counselor?</p>
<p>There is a report for most selective schools that is filled out by your school. This is usually done by the counselor. It is important that you make peace with him. I would crawl in and apologize for your lapse of judgement and your lie. This was not good timing. Even my son, Wild Child, managed to not screw up during junior and senior year! You might even want to apologize in writing and state the lessons you learned. Otherwise, I would suggest applying to IU.</p>
<p>your counsler is being obnoxious. There is no need to not write a rec becasue of that. Did you already take the final in the class?</p>
<p>did you go with someone else? blame it on peer pressure lol</p>
<p>Tell him that you are sorry, and that this one blemish should not change the fact that you are an upstanding member of the school community.</p>
<p>Go to your counselor and apologize. Take responsibility for what you've done. Do NOT blame it on peer pressure because that would just be an attempt to shift the blame, and more than likely that would tick off your counselor even more.</p>
<p>You seem to think that what you did was virtually OK, but many people -- colleges, your GC, your principal probably won't view it as a little thing that you not only skipped class (not that uncommon), but lied about it. Whoever does your recommendation will probably not give you the highest rating possible in the ethics part of the recommendation, which colleges do look at.</p>
<p>Just admit it was a mistake and take complete responsibility. Don't try to explain that this shouldn't tarnish 4 years of [insert other good stuff you've done here]. He'll have that thought himself without you pointing it out. You don't want to sound the slightest bit argumentative. </p>
<p>I had to have a similar conversation with my counselor a year ago (and I was in a lot more trouble!). Everything worked out fine.</p>
<p>Did you have a reason for wanting to cut class that day? Not that it justifies anything, but "he wanted to go to the beach with his friends" is a much nicer thought than "he was too lazy to go to class."</p>