<p>I am transferring a university 2 hours away from my local community college.
I just got my roommate information.
I'm a little scared because I thought that the housing office would place new transfer students with other new transfer students, but it looks like my roommate is not a new student! And she looks kind of intimidating.
Now I feel like it's going to be a harder adjustment for me because my roommate is not going to be going through what I'm going through. She already has friends and knows the campus well.
How do I handle this?</p>
<p>in what way does she “look” intimidating? And she may not already have a lot of friends…or else why would she be being placed with a random roommate, instead of living with a friend of her own choosing?
Don’t sell yourself short.
If you want to meet other transfer students like yourself, find out about any planned social or academic advising events for transfer students. If your new school doesn’t have any on the horizon…get active and start a club for transfer students!</p>
<p>Isn’t it better that your roommate has a circle of friends that you can join?</p>
<p>It’s probably for the best that the school placed you with someone who’s been there awhile. This person already knows the campus like the back of her hand, and has established friends and rituals. If you have questions (and get along with her), she would be your go to person.</p>
<p>+1 to what everyone said. And yes, please elaborate on how your roomie “looks” intimidating. People never cease to surprise, so I wouldn’t go into the experience with a closed off mind.</p>
<p>My brother transferred from a school where he was commuting to a huge, 5 hour away school - Cornell. His roomie was not a transfer; neither were his suitemates. It was much easier for him to feel welcome, since he was surrounded with people who knew the ropes already, and he already had a “set” of friends from the start. </p>
<p>If it turns out to be a complete sham with this roommate, you can always opt into a room switch.</p>
<p>Try not to be so quick to judge. If you are supporting that she is intimidating from her Facebook page, that’s not very reliable. She may even introduce you to her circle of friends.</p>
<p>“She looks kind of intimidating.”</p>
<p>Yeah, don’t judge by looks. People I’m friends with are always telling me how they were afraid of me at first. Apparently I look like a snob, even though I try to help people whenever possible. It could just be her face:)</p>
<p>I just got paired with an incoming first-year… just saying.</p>
<p>Haha I’m a first year that got paired up with a sophomore, and I understand where you’re coming from with the intimidation factor…</p>